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non christian husband - 7/1/2008 7:42:03 PM
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Guylar
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Hi, I am new to crosswalks forums. I have been searching the internet for a place that I can discuss different aspects of my christianity. Looks like I may have found it. I would like to know how many of you are Christan women married to non-Christian men. I was born and baptized a Catholic but was not really raised in the church. I have a "colorful" background to put it lightly. I was married once before and divorced. I met my husband now in 1993, lived together one year and married in 1994. I was born-again and baptized about 6 years ago. Fell away from the church again until about a year ago and now have become a member of an awesome church and attend every Sunday. I read a lot of Christian books, have recently tried to commit time to reading the Bible and only listen to Christian music except for when I am riding with my husband. My husband believes in God, Jesus and that's about it. Anyone else out there that became a Christian after marriage and your husband has not?
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RE: non christian husband - 7/2/2008 6:41:48 PM
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jaimestarcross
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Welcome to the forum Guylar!
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RE: non christian husband - 7/3/2008 9:29:28 AM
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TMeeks
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In this situation, the most important thing you can do is to fully understand what 'being a Christian' means. Jesus gives us the reason he came in John 10:10. The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. Jesus has given you LIFE at the moment of your salvation. Notice the term 'may'? It means that the provision was always there; but, it was waiting for you to choose it. The same is true for your husband. It's there; but, for now, he has not chosen to take advantage of it. So, what will best encourage him to make that choice? I think it's when you take the next step and choose to take advantage of the second thing that Jesus says he wants to give you... a FULL (or ABUNDANT) life. A full life in Jesus Christ comes from being obedient to his commands and taking on his attitudes as the Holy Spirit gives us love, joy and peace. What is REALLY important is that God's commands aren't suggestions. And, every one of them is based on His knowing how we are built and what is best for us in the long term. I you concentrate on YOU and your relationship to Jesus Christ and bring those aspects of your past and your quirks into the cleaning ans restoring power of Jesus, then your God will be appealing to your husband. Living Christ is better than talking about Christ. Frustration and anxiety, even if it's for good things like your husband's salvation, are NOT evidences of the Holy Spirit in your life. Relax and love God and and find ways to respect your husband and look for ways to make your bonds with him stronger. God will take care of the rest.
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Galatians 6:7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8 The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
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RE: non christian husband - 7/3/2008 4:21:17 PM
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Guylar
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Thank you that is very insightful. The difficult times are when he makes snide remarks concerning how I am following what Jesus wants me to do or more often, what not to do. An example is I am trying/needing to find ways to cut some of our bills down and I suggested checking into a cheaper internet company. He is a whiz on computer stuff and knows how to "tap into" neigbors unsecured internet. He doesn't do anything to their system or look into their things but is able to connect through their wireless network. I said it is stealing and we are not going to do that. He said it's free, out in space. I said but the people you are using the wireless network from our paying for it and we would not be. Still stealing. He said I need to "get off of this doing everything the right way". I was told when I was attending the church I was baptized in ( at a women's bible study group) that when God is working in someone (i.e. husband) that it is sometimes worse before it gets better cuz Satan hates it. I really believe this from my personal experience. This time I am not letting him make me do things I feel are wrong or stop doing things I feel are right (attend church, listen to christian music etc.). It's funny he even made the remark one time he liked me better when I was watch my Joyce Meyer and stuff than when I wasn't. He doesn't want me drinking but he doesn't want me boring and he thinks the "Christian Stuff" is boring. I bough a copy of "The power of a praying wife" and read the prayers - at least one - every night. Thanks again and sorry I rambled.
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RE: non christian husband - 7/3/2008 10:49:02 PM
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TMeeks
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The problem all of us have is that we focus on the wrong 'enemy'. Going back to John 10:10, we find a very interesting construction. Notice that the ONLY reason the thief has for interacting with any human being is to steal and kill and destroy. That's it. Nothing else. So, if he finds that these goals are being thwarted he does what any goal oriented being would do, he ratchets up his efforts. Otherwise, he loses completely. Notice the escalation. First, he begins to steal from us. And, that began in the Garden when he stole eternal life from every single human being through Adam's sin. It took Jesus' death to buy us back. Next he wants to kill. He wants to kill relationships and bodies. But, his ultimate goal is to completely destroy God's creation. It's one thing to die. But, it's quite another to be eternally destroyed with no hope of life, let alone abundant life. When we begin to do things that threaten his goals in our lives and the lives of those we love, we can expect a whirlwind of frantic activity. But, remember, Satan's power is localized. It's confined to here on earth. But, the vastness of the universe is God's alone and not shared with anyone that has not been given life by him. And, that dominion is INFINITELY bigger than this tiny little planet. A tornado, generally, is very small... maybe just a few feet or hundreds of feet across when it touches down. But, for those in it's path it seems like the whole world is coming apart. In reality, infinitely more space on the earth is at peace than that small plot of ground where the twister is doing its damage. And, the universe and eternity is like that. Satan's power seems so great because we are at the point of 'touchdown'. But, in reality, his dominion and power are so lame and puny compared to the cosmos in the dominion of God. If we keep this perspective, then we will pity and pray for those that ridicule our desire to serve that magnificent God of all creation and simply let the words slide off us and onto the floor. Please don't be hurt by your husband's remarks. He's simply being pounded by the thief and in turn pounds you. But, if you truly turn your eyes on Jesus Christ and desire to know him more and more each day AND BE A BLESSING TO YOUR HUSBAND in everything, then God, I believe will honor that in time and begin showing your husband that something is being stolen from him while you are more and more experiencing the full, rich, abundant life in Jesus Christ. You God is greater than his. Let your God work in your life and leave the rest up to God. quote:
ORIGINAL: Guylar Thank you that is very insightful. The difficult times are when he makes snide remarks concerning how I am following what Jesus wants me to do or more often, what not to do. An example is I am trying/needing to find ways to cut some of our bills down and I suggested checking into a cheaper internet company. He is a whiz on computer stuff and knows how to "tap into" neigbors unsecured internet. He doesn't do anything to their system or look into their things but is able to connect through their wireless network. I said it is stealing and we are not going to do that. He said it's free, out in space. I said but the people you are using the wireless network from our paying for it and we would not be. Still stealing. He said I need to "get off of this doing everything the right way". I was told when I was attending the church I was baptized in ( at a women's bible study group) that when God is working in someone (i.e. husband) that it is sometimes worse before it gets better cuz Satan hates it. I really believe this from my personal experience. This time I am not letting him make me do things I feel are wrong or stop doing things I feel are right (attend church, listen to christian music etc.). It's funny he even made the remark one time he liked me better when I was watch my Joyce Meyer and stuff than when I wasn't. He doesn't want me drinking but he doesn't want me boring and he thinks the "Christian Stuff" is boring. I bough a copy of "The power of a praying wife" and read the prayers - at least one - every night. Thanks again and sorry I rambled.
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Galatians 6:7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8 The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
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RE: non christian husband - 7/18/2008 5:08:26 PM
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island_jesus_freak
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I became a believer before my husband and my children and have endured a long process of still now continued recovery. I am new to this sight and believe that I will like it! My husband is an amazing man but he has not always been the best, nor have I - God has transformed me, him and our cildren and our home - Hang in there - Jesus has faithfully continued to reveal new truths to us. There are still things for us to learn - I get frusrated from time to time because I seem to figure things out before the rest of them and i have to wait for God to reveal it to each of them in His timing! Hang in there - I will visit again- Jesus will do for you what He has done for me!!! Stand on the truth with love! Say it with love in a tone you would use with a little old lady - you know kindly! best of luck One servant among many rachel
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