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What constitutes abuse?
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| Hitting and/or physically hurting someone only |
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| Throwing things at the person and/or around the house? |
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| Cursing, name-calling, vicious words |
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| Degrading, manipulating, mental games |
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| yelling at each other |
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| All of the above |
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| None of the above |
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(last vote on : 12/12/2009 12:38:47 PM)
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RE: What constitutes abuse? - 10/31/2009 8:30:04 PM
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herestoresmysoul
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Lorilynn if we cant discuss these things on a christian forum then something is wrong. I certainly wasnt offended in anyway.
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RE: What constitutes abuse? - 10/31/2009 10:22:22 PM
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Anon101
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Lorilynn if we cant discuss these things on a christian forum then something is wrong. I certainly wasnt offended in anyway.
Thank you. Some were hurt and/or offended and things got a tad testy but after prayerfully rethinking my reaction to their reaction I realized how my post could have offended them. Isn't God good? God allowed me to read my post from their position and when the revelation came I was humbled.
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RE: What constitutes abuse? - 11/2/2009 1:32:22 AM
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Covaan_Meshuga
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I chose all of the above, after ticking of every thing above it. I am one who is completely intolerant of abuse, whether it is a wife doing the abusing, a husband, a mother, a father, a pastor, a grandparent or other relative, a child, a teacher, medical personnel -- anyone. There is no excuse for anyone to abuse anyone or any beast, be it a worm on the sidewalk. I will not personally put up with it, if there is anything I can do at all.
I included yelling. Now, I get to cutting up around the house, trying to be funny or whatever, and I get loud, but I have Never, Ever lifted my voice against my husband in anger. That would be abusive to me.
If my husband ever yelled at me, I would fall apart. He knows that, and in the 22 years we have been married, he has not done it. He even learned not to slip his belt through his belt loops while I am in the room: that sends shivers through my very soul, shaking me for several minutes. I have not gotten over that, although I want to. I need to work on it more.
And any church that tells a husband or wife to stay in an abusive situation will stand before G-d in SHAME and JUDGMENT! Period. And any spiritual leader who refuses to accept that someone has been abused, calling them a liar, will be judged. If you don't believe it, keep that to yourself.
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RE: What constitutes abuse? - 11/12/2009 10:56:13 AM
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ORIGINAL: Covaan_Meshuga
And any church that tells a husband or wife to stay in an abusive situation will stand before G-d in SHAME and JUDGMENT! Period. And any spiritual leader who refuses to accept that someone has been abused, calling them a liar, will be judged. If you don't believe it, keep that to yourself.
Agreed!
Absolutely!
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RE: What constitutes abuse? - 11/14/2009 12:13:39 AM
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DixieJo
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My first husband didn't him me, but was extremely jealous and controlling.
He did things such as time me to see how long I was at the grocery store, check the odometer on my car before I left for work and when I got home.
I consider the constant nagging and accusations abuse.
Then I had a boyfriend that slapped me once and swore he would never do it again. He got mad one day and decided to beat me. He got in about 2 punches before I began to fight back. He got a black eye and busted lip out of the deal but I was hurt pretty bad. Never saw him again!! Definitely abuse.
Me and my husband will get mad at times and yell but get over it quickly and I in no way feel abused by him.
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RE: What constitutes abuse? - 11/14/2009 8:54:01 AM
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When it comes to yelling I think people get confused. We are talking people that use yelling as a tool to control the situation. To intimidate you to get you to bend to their will.
To me its not the same thing as lets say you are fixing the lawnmower, and the darn thing won't cooperate...and yell at it to tell it you are frustrated. I mean most of the time people don't do that, but on that rare occasion in which they do is what I'm talking about.
If parents on occasion yell at the kids, and its not a normal thing...and may even feel badly afterwards. That is not what we are talking about either.
Yelling itself it NOT what the issue is. I mean lets face it we all get frustrated and blow it on occasion. Who hasn't! That in itself is not abusive, but one that uses that yelling to control the situation on a regular basis. Its like a tool for them to use to bully people. They make it quite clear if you don't do what they are yelling about? They will make your life miserable, and you will pay dearly.
There is a huge difference between human's screaming on occasion out of frustration, and one that screams to scare the daylights out of someone because they want something.
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