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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 4:32:58 PM
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teacher1982
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However if you are not happy now, having someone will not make you happy. This is NOT true for everyone. You can't put us all in a barrel.
I had it once, and I'm not happy without it. Pure and simple.
And NO, a single person can NOT go and do like a couple can. One example: I live on the east side of the country. I have never been west of Memphis, Tennessee. I want to see the Grand Canyon, Seattle, the Pacific ocean, Las Vegas, Yellow Stone National Park and many other places. "He" and I could have gone together (as we planned to do). NO WAY in the world, can a woman drive across the country by herself. NO WAY can two, three or even four women drive across country by themselves. So there ARE some things that single women can NOT do that she COULD HAVE DONE with her husband. This is just ONE of the things that my ex stole from me when he left.
(No, I can not ride on a tour bus. I get motion sickness on buses and planes.)
Someone above posted a very comforting post to me and said that I could always come here for support. Yet when I do post my true feelings, I get lectures on how to change and be someone that isn't natural for me; do things that I don't enjoy doing; learn to go places by myself when I don't feel safe doing that; volunteer at hospitals when I have a personal reason for not being able to do that; join a Singles club when that would only make me realize that I'm in a "group" of people that I don't want to be in; start a singles group when I'm not the type of person to do that; and so on and so on.
The thing is - people do not understand that I have tried everything!! Not to mention prayer, fasting, reading the Bible, more prayer, begging, pleading, searching, struggling, counseling (by both secular and Christian counselors) and everything else that anyone has suggested or that I can think of. I HATE being single. As I said before, I am a wife without a job. That is my calling in life. It's what I do good. To tell me to do something else would be like me telling you to fly to the moon. (and then criticizing you because you can't).
The ironic thing is I was reading the other day the Forum about Joyce Meyer and one to the biggest criticisms against her is that she teaches to "speak" positive things and they will happen to you. Yet here, in this OP, you guys are saying the very same thing. BE HAPPY for all things. BE THANKFUL for all things - and YOU WILL BE!!
Sounds like a "positive thinking" seminar. Well, REAL life doesn't work that way. I can sit and say all day long that I am thankful for being single and it will NOT cause me to be happy to be single.
You know - I know someone who had BC and had a mastectomy. I know someone else who just four months later had BC and had a bilateral mastectomy. Do you think it comforted the first woman one little bit for someone to tell her not to feel so bad because so-and-so lost both breasts and she only lost one??? No.
I remember several years ago when my Dad was in the hospital for six solid months and had seven major operations on his stomach. One of his visitors told him about a man down the hall who lost a leg - like that was supposed to make my Dad feel better. It didn't.
What I'm trying to say here, if I haven't gotten my point across already - is that all the words in the world all not going to change how I feel and mend my broken heart, or fill up my life. I just survive. I live because God is making me. I look forward to the day that He says "She's had enough. Bring her home."
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 4:44:15 PM
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And NO, a single person can NOT go and do like a couple can. One example: I live on the east side of the country. I have never been west of Memphis, Tennessee. I want to see the Grand Canyon, Seattle, the Pacific ocean, Las Vegas, Yellow Stone National Park and many other places. "He" and I could have gone together (as we planned to do). NO WAY in the world, can a woman drive across the country by herself. NO WAY can two, three or even four women drive across country by themselves. So there ARE some things that single women can NOT do that she COULD HAVE DONE with her husband. This is just ONE of the things that my ex stole from me when he left.
Why can't a woman drive across the country by herself?
Is there a law against it?
If YOU feel it's unsafe, or boring, or whatever than that's YOUR choice...but don't put the rest of the world in a box by ASSUMING other woman couldn't do it. If I had the inclination, the money, and the time you can bet your bottom dollar I would drive all over this country by myself or with my two kids and see everything.
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Someone above posted a very comforting post to me and said that I could always come here for support. Yet when I do post my true feelings, I get lectures on how to change and be someone that isn't natural for me; do things that I don't enjoy doing; learn to go places by myself when I don't feel safe doing that; volunteer at hospitals when I have a personal reason for not being able to do that; join a Singles club when that would only make me realize that I'm in a "group" of people that I don't want to be in; start a singles group when I'm not the type of person to do that; and so on and so on.
You can come here for comfort but I'm not going to lie to you and agree with everything you're saying.
Just because I don't agree doesn't mean that I don't wish life were different for you.
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What I'm trying to say here, if I haven't gotten my point across already - is that all the words in the world all not going to change how I feel and mend my broken heart, or fill up my life. I just survive. I live because God is making me. I look forward to the day that He says "She's had enough. Bring her home."
I believe G-d has me on this earth for more than just surviving. I have to believe it...if I didn't my life would be a waste and G-d just isn't into that.
If that's how you chose to live your life than more power to you.
I am a single woman who is very happy, very content, and confident enough to know that marriage isn't going to make me happy.
In fact the relationship I'm in is pretty stressful but definitely worth fighting for, but if I weren't already in a content state of mind then I wouldn't be able to achieve it in a relationship.
And I will say I don't agree with Joyce Meyer's teachings, but I do agree with the fact that life is a choice and if I choose to live in misery and focus on all the negative then guess what? My life won't be much of a blessing; but if I choose to live like everything is a gift from G-d and I will do everything I can to honour Him and give Him glory for everything He does...then things will be different.
It's all a matter of perspective. 
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 4:51:02 PM
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What I'm trying to say here, if I haven't gotten my point across already - is that all the words in the world all not going to change how I feel and mend my broken heart, or fill up my life.
That's exactly right. Only you can do that.
I'd be plenty careful telling others here how REAL life works. You don't know us. You don't know what we've been through and lived to tell about.
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 4:56:27 PM
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NO WAY in the world, can a woman drive across the country by herself.
I know of more than one woman who has.
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 5:11:13 PM
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You don't know what we've been through and lived to tell about. EXACTLY!!
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 5:16:14 PM
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You don't know what we've been through and lived to tell about. EXACTLY!!
But with a difference, teacher. We've lived through some horrific things and come out on the other side. Without bitterness. Without feeling as though the most we can do is survive. We've come through able to see God's fingerprints on our lives and thank Him for what He's been doing in us. One would think that we are the very people a person who doesn't have that would listen to.
Apparently not and that is your choice. We would help if you'd let us.
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 5:19:00 PM
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I think that the point here that we're all trying to make is everyone's experience is unique to them and that cookie cutter answers don't cut it for a lot of us.The purpose here and correct me if I am wrong here Is that we can feel free to share our experiences and maybe someone can glean a little wisdom from it and apply it to their lives.Now I don't know what kind of pain Teacher is feeling just as tho she doesn't know mine but we can all empathize with it and maybe we can help each other through it.
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 7:20:06 PM
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I hope what i said made sense.
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 7:25:02 PM
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And NO, a single person can NOT go and do like a couple can. One example: I live on the east side of the country. I have never been west of Memphis, Tennessee. I want to see the Grand Canyon, Seattle, the Pacific ocean, Las Vegas, Yellow Stone National Park and many other places. "He" and I could have gone together (as we planned to do). NO WAY in the world, can a woman drive across the country by herself. NO WAY can two, three or even four women drive across country by themselves. So there ARE some things that single women can NOT do that she COULD HAVE DONE with her husband. This is just ONE of the things that my ex stole from me when he left. Now I can understand why you can't travel in a bus because of motion sickness (have you tried ginger by the way?) but as for not driving... not true.
I spent a year in the US. I made an totally unforgettable trip (on Greyhound) from a town about an hour south of St Louis, MO to Oakland, CA. ALONE. I met some incredible people en route (including an old chap who'd been stationed (during WWII) in a town near where I lived before I went to the US. Took the southern route (66) to CA, the northern route back, so got to see a huge amount of the country.
Would I do it again? In a heartbeat. Would I drive with friends? You bet. Alone? Probably ~ though I have arthritis and carpel tunnel in my hands, so it makes driving difficult.
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 7:31:23 PM
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I hope what i said made sense.
You mean about the crumbs?
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 8:05:41 PM
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One would think that we are the very people a person who doesn't have that would listen to.
I appreciate it if you want to share your experiences, but I can't take criticism or arguments about my decisions and/or how I handle things. As someone said, we are all different and we react and handle things differently. I don't mind advice, but I don't want to be criticized like I am weak if I don't take your advice. For instance, some women may be able to drive across country by themselves, but for me it would be very unwise and unsafe. I have never changed a flat tire, and I definitely would feel afraid to check into motels in "No-mans-land Wisconsin" or "Never-heard-of-little-town, Nebraska". And I can just see me standing at the beautiful Grand Canyon by myself and looking at the wonders, turning to comment to my "companion" about the sites and realize that I'm there all alone. Like I am the only human being alive on another planet. A huge part of seeing sites like that is sharing the experience with people you love. IMO, anyway.
What I think my biggest problem is - my other half is gone. We were joined by God and made into ONE person. Just because he is half-mile away living with another woman (and has been for 3 years) doesn't untie the tie that binds. I still feel joined to him. I feel like my right arm has been cut off, or my heart cut out. In my heart and soul, we are still married and he is still my husband. On paper we may be divorced, but in my heart, and I believe in God's eyes, we are still married - still ONE.
He's gone and I know it. I think that meeting and dating someone else for friendship and companionship would help. I do not want to replace him because that isn't possible. But I need a friend. Humans are made that way. And being alone and lonesome is NOT God's plan (IF He has a plan) for me.
I go to places alone. My passion is Southern Gospel concerts. I love them! I enjoy them while I am in the concert. Then when I walk out the door with the crowd of hundreds of people, the pain hits me so hard that my knees almost buckle and take me down to the ground.
I eat alone. I go to church alone. I buy groceries for one. (I finally stopped buying him new shirts and stuff, just to return them the next week.) I go to bed alone and I wake up alone. Out of the 10,080 minutes in a week, I probably spend 9600 of them alone. Without taking the time to explain exactly how my life is, that is a fair estimate and I don't have many options to change it. Just take my word for it.
The friends and family that I do have think I should be over everything by now. They do not want to hear it and they think I should be able to easily move on by now with a new life and be happy!! They don't understand that I feel worse today than I did when he left. I was numb then. I sure ain't now.
So I don't talk to them anymore - they don't want to hear it. And I understand why. There is nothing else that they can say and nothing at all that they can do.
And yes, the "cookie cutter" answers do not apply. Please remember that when talking to me. I am sensitive and hurting, but somehow still trying to reach out for help rather than crawling into a hole somewhere and covering myself up with dirt.
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 8:26:32 PM
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The friends and family that I do have think I should be over everything by now. You know something... you're friends are wrong... it takes time to heal from loss and the amount of time it takes varies from person to person. Sometimes, I think, it's easier when a loved one dies than deserts us.
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They don't understand that I feel worse today than I did when he left. I was numb then. I sure ain't now. I saw my GP today about something. We touched on the therapy that I'm having and she made a comment to me (strangely enough, I'd said the same to my psychologist a while back). The comment was that things seem to get worse before they get better. Numbness is very often a normal feeling. Just as with surgery though, the numbness doesn't last and pain often takes over (whether physical, emotional or mental). It's part of the healing process.
I think one thing that we have to be very careful of, whatever our circumstances is believe that we will never be able to change the status quo. Change isn't easy for many (no matter what the change is) but that doesn't mean it's impossible, nor that we shouldn't keep trying to change our life for the better.
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I am sensitive and hurting, but somehow still trying to reach out for help rather than crawling into a hole somewhere and covering myself up with dirt. With respect, there are many, if not all, of us who could say the same thing. There are people who have posted in these forums (in this thread actually) who have cut me deeply because of comments that have been made (either in this thread or in others). Yes, we should try and be careful not to inflict harm (because I'm sure that I have cut others too) but forums is a relatively save place. We can come to it and read posts (and perhaps learn and be challenged) when we are ready. Sometimes we need a good boot up the backside to move on from where we are. I am not saying that you are in that position (of needing the boot) but you have to remember that forums is a difficult place to interpret fully (ie emotionally) what someone else is saying. Often the spoken word would sound far more caring than the written word.
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 8:55:50 PM
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Well now it's just starting to get silly.
See what I mean?
Why would I want to bare my heart to someone who thinks I'm "silly"??
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 9:14:05 PM
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Why would I want to bare my heart to someone who thinks I'm "silly"?? I don't think that you're being silly about sharing your feelings about your experiences.
But it seems that there are people who are saying that single people can do anything a couple can do and others who are saying that there are things a single person can't do that a couple can do.
We all have our own individual feelings about what we can and can't do as a single person that we could/couldn't do as a couple. That's fine.
It's also (IMO) fine to challenge other peoples believe about what we can and can't do (though we have to try and be sensitive about it).
Should we agree that person x is right, even though we've done what they said we shouldn't have been able to do because of our marital status? Should we listen to person y's experience of doing something for advice in our own situation? When does advice become criticism? Who is to say what the limits are as to what we, as individuals can do? Can we really tell others that something is or isn't possible and expect them to do it?
As I previously said, I crossed a lot of the US. I know that it can be done. That doesn't mean it's right for every single woman to do. I don't expect every woman to be able to do it. But I don't expect for every woman to say that it can't be done.
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 9:25:36 PM
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I'm not sure what the "cookie cutter answers" comment is about. What has been suggested and advocated is clearly laid out, as stellaluna posted earlier in the thread, in 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
16 Be joyful always; 17 pray continually; 18 give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
This is the answer to hardship and trials and pain. This is what God's will for us is. This is how we grow and this is one of the ways God works in us.
Teacher, I'm not sure if you're aware that you can block those of us whose posts you don't wish to read. There's a little red hand at the bottom left of each post. If you click on that it blocks the poster and you won't see their posts anymore. That may be something you'd like to take advantage of and you wouldn't have to see things that might distress you or make you feel defensive. God bless.
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 9:32:39 PM
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The friends and family that I do have think I should be over everything by now. They do not want to hear it and they think I should be able to easily move on by now with a new life and be happy!! They don't understand that I feel worse today than I did when he left. I was numb then. I sure ain't now.
Oh I hear ya on this one. 
Because of how horrific my divorce was it literally took years for me to able to have a functioning conversation without biting someone's head off. Wasn't an easy time for me, my family, my children but we all got through it by the grace of G-d.
I became incredibly bitter, even more self centered than normal (and that's quite a bit considering I'm fairly narcisisstic) and no one wanted to be my friend.
I was divorced 6 years ago from a man who thought he was G-d and he was King of my world and didn't like that I didn't agree with him. The worst part about a divorce is that it isn't just the end of something, but can feel like a failure...like you (general you mind you) contributed to the murder of something pure and beautiful no matter how hard you fought to keep it alive.
Lioness is right; we all have had unimaginable pain and difficulties to get through but the point is, we all got through them and you will as well. It takes time, it takes patience and it takes a TON of faith.
I would not be alive right now if it weren't for my faith and I thank G-d everyday for that. I have a beautiful life...two great kids, a job that provides my every need, and a wonderful church to worship Adonai.
And as far as being called "silly". I wouldn't take it personally. We are snip and snarl at each other but it's all done out of love because of the kind of family we are. Trust me. The first time I had someone roll their eyes at me I thought I was going to cry with joy. I was accepted! 
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 9:35:26 PM
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My silliness comment was directed at the posts that insist because one is single, one is chained to a life of misery and no fun. 
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Couples I know(married or dating), appear to have it made. They are the ones who are really experiencing life. Couples in my family get together for dinner, movies, concerts, etc. They do fun stuff by themselves as a couple.
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I tend to get frustrated when I want to do something, and I cannot because I am single. I would love to get a nice seat at a restaurant, at a play, or opera. Good luck if buying a single ticket. Might as well be a leper.
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I feel the same way too married couples are going to places like The Grand Canyon or WWD where i go nowhere. I hate it myself i feel as though married couples are enjoying a great feast by God and i feel God only gave me worthless crumbs.
I have more than a few friends who lament the loss of their freedom as a single because they married someone who doesn't want to do anything. Being married is no guarantee of fun.
This reminds me of that commercial for the electric chairs and the old lady who says "Now I can go to the Grand Canyon!" As though no one can visit a national park without an electric chair. (And frankly, wasn't she worried that she'd roll over the edge???) I sincerely hope that anyone in this thread who is feeling down in the dumps and bitter can take away a new perspective from me or some of the other posters here.
I can promise, some of the single brothers and sisters posting in this folder have been through more heartache and despair than I can ever imagine going through. By the grace of God they have done more than survive and they are here as witnesses to the power of prayer, of perseverance, of faith, of hope, of surrender. They know who they are. 
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 9:37:12 PM
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Hi teacher. I wrote something to you over the weekend, but erased it because I didn't want to make assumptions (I meant it as an encouragement to you, but didn't want it to be too personal ... you know?) Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that I appreciate you writing and sharing how you've been feeling. I think it takes a lot of courage to do that. I think too, that you've reminded me a lot about the single experience. I've been single all of my life and I've learned a lot about how to be alone. I don't particularly like doing things alone, but I've learned how to do it because if I hadn't, I wouldn't have gotten a chance to do a lot of things. But, I've forgotten that it took a lot of time to get to that point. The shoe is now on the other foot. I used to complain about married people - who just lecture on how easy it is to meet someone. Well, I think that sometimes as singles, we can be guilty of the same thing (I know that I have been.) I often travel alone, drive to different states alone, fly alone. I can go to the movies alone, shopping alone, eat alone, make financial decisions, buy property, run a business, fix stuff around the house. I have friends. But, I'm so used to being alone that I have to make myself remember to include other people in my plans sometimes. It was uncomfortable at first, it took a long time to learn to do it. The first time I took a plane trip (across country to the Grand Canyon) by myself, I was so stressed that my mind kept blanking on simple things. But I made it through and eventually got to the point where I could go to other countries alone. In fact, I was talking with a friend not long ago who kept asking me about this. I kept thinking - "well, I get a ticket, pack, get on the plane, get off of the plane, take a taxi to the hotel ..." I didn't SAY that because I'm pretty sure my tone would have sounded sarcastic. But I'd forgotten until tonight that it took time and effort for me to be able to do that. I think for many people (like I was and maybe still am) it is natural to want to be with someone else, to do things with someone else - and if you've grown used to that, it must be very difficult to suddenly be single - especially since it sounds to me that you didn't see it coming.
I just wanted to write you to say that - as hard as it is - I think that as you share and read about others here - as you are challenged in your thinking - and as you challenge others - that over time, healing will occur. When I first started posting regularly in the forums about a year and a half or so ago, I was really strugging a lot with singleness. In one of my first posts, I ended up jumping all over a very well meaning person who was talking about singleness. I felt horrible about my reaction and apologized profusely. But over time, with a lot of prayer on my part, and with God healing my heart, and also with taking the time to share and here - I was able to process a lot of those emotions and move to a place of greater health and wholeness. I've often found these forums to be somewhat therapeutic in the sense that in answering questions, I've been able to connect with my emotions on different aspects of singleness - and to also learn from people who were had different views from mine. Of course, I'd been working on that for a long time before the forums; this was just a place where I could come and see my own feelings in black and white - and to interact with other people who understood. And there were times when I was hurt here by things that people said to me. And there were probably times when I unintentionally hurt others.
I also want to say that I kept feeling as I read your posts that as dark and as painful as this time is in your life and as hard as you are grieving, that the Lord will pull you through this. There are others here who will be able to testify to that better than I can. I kept getting this impression that during this time of being alone, that the Lord is going to show you a lot of things about yourself - things that you might not have known or discovered. Good things - things that you might not have appreciated about yourself or even noticed. You will find strength that you didn't know that you had. And as you grieve, learn, heal, forgive, and mostly cling to the Lord, he's going to show different sides of Himself to you - because He always meets us at the very point of our need. I know that because that is the nature of God. I know from personal experience that doesn't waste anything - not a pain, hurt, or tear. I don't know if God is going to have another husband for you, if he will restore you marriage, or what the future holds for you. But I don't believe that you will be alone forever - and I am praying that God will plant you with healthy people who will help meet your needs for companionship as you pass through this season of singleness.
Take care teacher!
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/9/2009 10:06:53 PM
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ShallbeRebuilt
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For those who are interested...
One of the reasons this Single's folder even exists is so that we can encourage one another.
Because of that, it is assumed by most posters that when a person shares their heart aches, they are not only looking for sympathy and compassion, but also for wisdom from those who have possibly been through something similar.
Because all of us here have been through a lot of pain, we all have a huge amount of sympathy and compassion for those who are hurting. I have seen many posts in this thread and others from people who really have come through the fire and out the other side, and they have shared wonderful encouragement about the best way to get to the other side while remaining sane, faith-filled, and even joyful.
Yet it seems that others, who are still in the fire, are not finding what they need in these wisdom-filled posts.
For those of you who are not finding help--please help us help you. None of us should lie or deny truth we have discovered along the way that may help. But if there is something short of that that can be said or done to help you, please tell us???
Do you just need a place to vent? That's ok...just say so. Do you need to have us give you space...just leave you alone? How can we best help you?
A good general reminder to all of us, whether we are in the fire or on the other side...
"Remind them of these things, and charge them before God not to quarrel about words, which does no good, but only ruins the hearers. Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth. But avoid irreverent babble, for it will lead people into more and more ungodliness, and their talk will spread like gangrene
The Holy Bible : English Standard Version., 2 Ti 2:14-17 (Wheaton: Standard Bible Society, 2001).
Further, scripture also exhorts us all to avoid stirring up division, as well as avoid those who stir up division (Titus 3:10).
Just sayin'
shallbe
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/10/2009 8:44:23 AM
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teacher1982
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BUT IT'S NOT TRUE!
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/10/2009 9:08:28 AM
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ShallbeRebuilt
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Yes, darlin', it is true. It is God's honest truth.
God says it's so.
The experience of a majority of people on this thread says it's true.
Abraham Lincoln says it's true.
Probably Ghandi says it's true.
That's what we're trying to tell you, for the purpose of helping you.
You are believing a lie.
And it's ruining your life. We don't want to see you ruin your life. We want to see you live abundantly above all you could ask or think.
But you have to be willing to admit that what you believe about this is false.
And that's the last I plan to say to you about it, though I may comment on what you say for the benefit of others.
God bless you. I'll be praying for God to open your eyes.
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has decided that the command against forsaking the assembling of ourselves together shall henceforth be considered satisfied when she wakes up each morning and finds that all her body parts are still assembled...
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/10/2009 9:38:49 AM
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CoeurdeLeon
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quote:
We don't want to see you ruin your life. We want to see you live abundantly above all you could ask or think.
Amen!
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RE: Bitter or angry about being single? - 11/10/2009 9:42:17 AM
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Taffy_
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quote:
ORIGINAL: CoeurdeLeon
quote:
We don't want to see you ruin your life. We want to see you live abundantly above all you could ask or think.
Amen!
Quoted for truth and ditto'ed for the Amen!
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