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Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First!
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Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 11:41:46 AM
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Covaan_Meshuga
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I'll admit it -- we don't do the kids' and adults' table in my children's homes or in mine, but a lot of people do. I was reared that way, and I have been in homes many times where that was done.
But as the celebrating seasons approach, and we gather with other family members in their homes, think about it: at which family table would you rather be seated for
- the nicest company
- the most intellectually provacative conversation
- the best time
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Got any fun stories about this?
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 12:01:44 PM
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Covaan_Meshuga
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Focusing, you're so cute!!
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 12:07:47 PM
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Who needs spoons to eat Thanksgiving dinner anyway? So what are you supposed to eat your Matzah ball soup with, a knife?????
I prefer the adult table. But sitting on the back porch with the dog can be nice too.
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 12:14:48 PM
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Covaan_Meshuga
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I'm not a matzah ball soup fan, Dave. I eat it when I must, to be nice, but I won't make it at home. Maybe I should revamp the recipe and make the matzah balls a lot smaller, then maybe . . . . 
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 1:56:02 PM
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The table with the most turkey - that's where to sit.
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 2:08:56 PM
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In our family, we don't intentionally separate the kids and the adults. It's just that one table is set up in the livingroom with carpeting, and the other in the kitchen with the tile...smaller kids eat in the kitchen area so the mess can be cleaned up easily with no carpeting getting ruined. Some adults are always in with the kids, though, and the area between the kitchen and livingroom is open, so the tables end up being pretty close to eachother so we're all together.
As far as where I prefer to sit, it's changed over time. Currently, I prefer the adult table if it's a holiday dinner with my extended family. I adore kids and can usually be found where they are, but my nephews are undisciplined and behave like whiney brats, so sitting with them for a meal isn't fun at all!
When my kids and the cousins in their age group were small, I loved sitting with them...they were hilarious and just fun to be with. I used to get the hugest kick out of the conversations between all the cousins. From the silly things, to their views on the world, it was just a very interesting and fun time.
Unfortunately, this last age group of kids in my extended family are more obnoxious than pleasant to be around, and would rather whine and complain than find somethign to talk about, so I claim a seat at the adult table as soon as we get there! 
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 2:28:58 PM
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The table with the most turkey - that's where to sit.
Actually I'll take the table with the most pies. 
I wanna sit with Bill!
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 2:33:43 PM
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The place that I sit is the one that strategically places me in a spot to receive the food being passed before my Uncle Keith can get his hands on the turkey and take all the good stuff.
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 2:40:32 PM
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We do it - and it is the 4 youngest at a card table. But it is now the teens table...
I hate it because the three oldest gang up on the youngest (mine, and mine) and then the youngest will sulk around, refuse to eat and then leave the table with the older three (actually, two nieces, one son)
She wore a shirt once that had fancy script on it and they made fun of what they 'thought' it said. She refused to wear it any place they might see her so they didn't tease her again.
I'd like to see that end and I'm willing to sit with the TEENS to do it.
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 4:06:50 PM
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I chose with the dog. He usually sits on the couch, and that's the easiest place to watch the Thanksgiving Day football game while you eat.
It doesn't come without its drawbacks, though. Caesar has that golden retriever mentality that logics any food within a 5 foot radius at snout level is available to be shared by him. The last two years, I've lost my dressing before I've even had a chance to sink my fork into it. Also, don't spill gravy on Grandma Alline's sofa. Just because she's got a pacemaker doesn't mean you can't whoop on you if you leave a stain.
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 5:25:18 PM
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When I was younger (like an adolescent), I always carefully took the place furthest from the kitchen and where it was awkward to get in and out so that I didn't have to help with the serving.
I really enjoy the conversation that adults can share around the table. And I think our culture has misunderstood the place of children. In too many situations they are the focal point and should not be. I think kids should be allowed to be kids and have fun and adults should have a time of meaningful fellowship.
There is a time and place for both (kids w/adults and adults alone) but I've seen too much of the child focus in our culture and the church and think it is not as it should be.
Where were the children in Jesus' day? We see and hear so little of them in scripture. What are we to learn from that?
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 5:54:33 PM
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My children's place always was and will always be at the table, joining in the conversation with the rest of us. That is the way I reared them, and that is the way it will always be with the grandchildren as well. I respect them all, and they have continuously been respectable; what they think and have to say has extreme value, and I want to hear from them. The table is the perfect place for that daily.
I, fortunately, am presently surrounded by family that doesn't fight or bicker. If that were not the case, I might think differently.
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 8:09:08 PM
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My children's place always was and will always be at the table, joining in the conversation with the rest of us. That is the way I reared them, and that is the way it will always be with the grandchildren as well.
I agree! Most especially at the holidays. My extended family has always wanted the kids included and for us to celebrate as a family. There is a time and place for adult conversations, but for us, that isn't at holiday time when it's about family and being together. The kids get their play time before dinner when they're running around playing, and the adults get a chance to visit then, but for meals, we all come together. That's one reason that there are always several adults at the tables in the kitchen with the little ones. We never wanted it to be an "us" and "them" situation. If we could all fit at one table when we go to my parent's home for Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner, we would certainly do that.
I would still want my nephews at the opposite end from me though
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We just find a spot on the floor, or if we are lucky, we get a spot on a chair or couch. We're all mixed in together
That's how we do dessert...much less formal and everyone crammed into the livingroom. It's nice and cozy and that way. 
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 8:33:12 PM
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I understand what Liveloved wrote, and the day came, when I was a young mother, when I questioned the children's table thing. My reasoning then was that it was finally my time: I had been put down all my life, told to shut up, told that my thoughts were not worth hearing, told that "children are to be seen, not heard." That day, I realized that I was The Adult; it was My Turn. The thought lasted for about five seconds, because immediately following that was this thought: do I really want to rear my children as second-class citizens in my home, as less valuable than adults? And the answer was a sound "NO!"
I am sure that this is not what LiveLoved intended. Good night, there are times with other things dictate what is done. But I just So Seriously Balk at separating people based upon age, especially children. How will they learn to be adults, if they do not experience adult actions and conversation at every level?
I just want to be surrounded with them at the table. They make everything So Right.
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 8:34:59 PM
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You all eat at tables for Thanksgiving? We just find a spot on the floor, or if we are lucky, we get a spot on a chair or couch. We're all mixed in together. The only place we go that we sit at tables is Erick's grandma's house, and she assigns seats. There are usually children and adults mixed together there, too. When you have over thirty people in the house, there's no kids' table and adults' tables.
Temporarily off subject:
Be It Known
I lied to Consecrated.
I feel so stinkin' bad.
I forgot all about the quilt.
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 9:15:49 PM
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If you are talking about the holiday gatherings only..there are 3 tables and everyone is mixed together...adults and children pretty much anywhere they can fit....but if it is a summer bbq or something we usually have kids tables and adult tables...family dinners has always been everyone together and many many priceless memories because of those times.
every sat. morn was all the family together for breakfast regardless of what else was happening that day and I think there would be a whole lot more happy people in the world if families still had that happening.
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 9:21:29 PM
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The kids table! In my family the adults do like to have fun and joke around, but it's usually pretty raunchy joke-telling. The kids still know how to have clean fun. Their idea of dirty jokes involves a mud fight or something like that.
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 10:36:16 PM
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Perhaps a word of explanation is in order:
In our family there was no division between adults and children. But there was a different kind of parenting that took place. So it worked.
Unfortunately what I have experienced today is the child centered family. When you have this kind of family in your midst at any mealtime gathering, everything changes and it has not been good.
Anyway, it discourages me from wanting to invite these families to share with us. Do others not experience this?
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/17/2008 10:53:14 PM
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Kids table , until they start throwin the food around lol
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/18/2008 10:00:23 AM
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Wasn't it Einstein's second theory of relativity that said: The more children at the table the less turkey to go around. It's all relative !!!
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RE: Kids' table or adult's table -- Read Post First! - 11/28/2008 2:37:16 PM
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So I am helping my daughter and 16-year-old granddaughter set up the dining tables yesterday for our thanksgiving dinner. My 7-year-old grandson looked at their large coffee table and said, "Can we have a kid's table? The kids can eat here!"
I saw my daughter bristle. But she sweetly answered her son, "No, at our house, we all eat together."
Disappointed, my grandson said, "Oh, please? We want a kids' table!"
My daughter responded, "No, not in my house. We all sit together." Then she turned to me and said, "I hate the idea of a kids' table. It is like telling them they are second class, like they are not good enough to eat with the elite."
I smiled and said, "I agree."
My grandson got over it. The little grandchildren sat together, across from one another, at the table with the rest of us; the bigger grandchildren (ages 18 & 16) sat amongst us. We all chatted. The ones on my end of the table hid their snickers when the previously-mentioned grandson said of the salad I brought, "I don't want to eat it -- it tastes weird!" and my daughter explained to him gently that his comment was rude and that I had made it.
We all blessed G-d together, enjoyed one another, conversed, laughed about the fact that the "old church" comes up whenever we are all together, etc. It was so much fun.
What would it have been separated from the children. Not as good, that's for sure.
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