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71421 -> Women of Color Married to White Men (9/18/2008 5:08:32 PM)

Hello,

I am a black woman married to a white man. We are both Christians and have a simply WONDERFUL marriage. I am interested in communincating with others who are interracially married, espsecially women of color married to or planning to marry other/white man. I have always preferred White American Males. We did not marry for any other reason but LOVE. We both are college educated, professionals, own a small but boring business and have two children who are both now in college. Comments? Let's talk. Thanks and God Bless![:)]



stellaluna -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (9/18/2008 5:13:54 PM)

Welcome to the boards! [sm=wave.gif]



3cappuccinosmom -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (9/18/2008 5:49:03 PM)

Well, we are interracially married, but the colors are reversed in our situation. [8D]

Welcome to the boards!



jaimestarcross -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (9/18/2008 7:34:18 PM)

I'm a black woman married to a white Canadian man.

I didn't have a preference in what color man I'd marry but
I definitely wanted a man who's strong in Christian faith.

*Welcome to the forum!



CBIGCLARKE -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (9/20/2008 2:15:51 PM)

I dont know if it counts, but i am a black male engaged to to a latin women



MultiRFam -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (10/12/2008 9:49:40 AM)

How is this for diveristy. I am an african American from a jewish backround (medically proven) Married to an italian man with a catholic backround (hes no longer catholic but still very much into growing with god and finding a church home.)



Lady_of_Faith -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (10/14/2008 8:18:57 PM)

I'm a woman of color, married to a man of color. [:D]

It's just nice to read something positive on marriage. You don't get that much these days. I have a cousin, who's wife is greek and she's my BFF. They have the regular maritial issues (like most) but for the most part, they have a very sound marriage.

Sorry I can't contribute more to this thread, but I just had to post that after reading your message, it gave me a warm feeling. May God continue to bless you and your family.



mickig -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (10/16/2008 10:26:28 AM)

Hey there! I am a white women engaged to a colored man! He is the love of my life! We also have a small business not so boring but we have to take it one day at a time! How is your business doing? Most people say don't mix business w/ family but I belive it is the best way so that we both know what is wrong with the other person instead of having no idea what goes on at work and all that. I also believe it helps when you each have your own roll in the business; he does the shipping and supplies and I do human resources it works great! Well good luck with your business and relationship if you ever want to chat let me know! God bless you and your family![:D]



TheresaCampbell -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (10/16/2008 11:29:45 AM)

Interesting thread. I am a black woman married to a black man. I almost married a white man. I'll admit what I'm sure others may not. Ultimately, I decided that the difficulties he and I would face were too much for me to deal with. Now, another white man with another perspective on mixed marriage may not have given me cause for concern. He felt we shouldn't have to defend ourselves. I felt that wasn't realistic. He felt we shouldn't answer questions about our relationship. I felt we should. He felt our children should be identified as mixed race. I felt they should be identified as black. Lots of differences when it came to race.



restinginHim -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (10/16/2008 11:59:02 AM)

[8|]IMO, I think when choosing to date and ultimately marry there are values/issues that need to be addressed to see if the relationship is compatible.

There are lots of differences/issues in life besides color... like disciplining children, religion, money, etc.. For me the biggest one came after we were married --- when i was born again... and he wasn't.[&o]

Has color been a factor in our marriage? -- no not between us -- just a factor in other people's lives.[;)]
Has color been a factor in our interaction with the world? Yes, but we both work together...just like everyone else hopefully does when they are faced with an issue needing to be resolved.

Not everyone can be married to a shopoholic, or a neat "freak" or a cluttered unorganized person, or someone of a different ethnic background, because each situation is unique with two unique individuals.



stamper_ben -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (10/17/2008 2:20:17 PM)

Pardon me, your epidermis is showing, sir
I couldn't help but note your shade of melanin
I tip my hat to the colorful arrangement
Cause I see the beauty in the tones of our skin

We've gotta come together
And thank the Maker of us all

CHORUS:
We're colored people, and we live in a tainted place
We're colored people, and they call us the human race
We've got a history so full of mistakes
And we are colored people who depend on a Holy Grace

DC Talk
Just had to throw this in here.



restinginHim -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (10/17/2008 2:29:34 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: stamper_ben...
Pardon me, your epidermis is showing, sir
I couldn't help but note your shade of melanin
I tip my hat to the colorful arrangement
Cause I see the beauty in the tones of our skin

We've gotta come together
And thank the Maker of us all

CHORUS:
We're colored people, and we live in a tainted place
We're colored people, and they call us the human race
We've got a history so full of mistakes
And we are colored people who depend on a Holy Grace

DC Talk
Just had to throw this in here.

[sm=icon_smile.gif][sm=icon_smile.gif]Great song! [sm=icon_smile.gif]First time i've heard it.[sm=icon_smile.gif]I second it! [sm=icon_smile.gif]We all are colored people - one race - the human race. [sm=icon_smile.gif][sm=icon_smile.gif]

Thank You GOD for You alone are worthy of our Praise! AMEN[:)]

Here's a YouTube link to the video Colored People by DC Talk



Death_Venom -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (10/21/2008 4:03:27 PM)

Hello-I am a white guy married to a fantastic Latino (or hispanic-or whichever you find politically correct) woman we have 2 children and love each other deeply.........



Starbucks880 -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (10/23/2008 8:59:09 PM)

Well, my situation is opposite of yours. I am a white woman from Europe married to an absolutely wonderful, handsome African-American male. I couldn't have been given a better man. We don't have children (we are currently trying to negotiate whether or not to change our previous decision not to have children), so we may or may not have some in the future. His family was absolutely wonderful in welcoming me. It took some getting use to with my family, but now they all love him too.



jaimestarcross -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (10/25/2008 1:54:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: TheresaCampbell

Interesting thread. I am a black woman married to a black man. I almost married a white man. I'll admit what I'm sure others may not. Ultimately, I decided that the difficulties he and I would face were too much for me to deal with. Now, another white man with another perspective on mixed marriage may not have given me cause for concern. He felt we shouldn't have to defend ourselves. I felt that wasn't realistic. He felt we shouldn't answer questions about our relationship. I felt we should. He felt our children should be identified as mixed race. I felt they should be identified as black. Lots of differences when it came to race.



* I've been asked why I married a white man many times... my reply is: the same reason you married your spouse and that's all the answer they will get. If they said isn't it hard being a black woman married to a white man - my reply was: It was much harder being single!

To me, if we had children I would list them as bi-racial if they had to be listed on a race chart or categorized. Children of racially mixed couples can
be born any color on the color chart between white and black.
My cousin is very white in appearance(her parents are black/white) but her brother is black in appearance. They do not resemble each other and if you didn't know them, you would not make the connection they are actually siblings. They are listed in the bi-racial category on birth records.



ladyingrace1979 -> RE: Women of Color Married to White Men (10/25/2008 7:22:58 PM)

I don't know if I count or not. My husband is 1/2 Puerto Rican and 1/2 Irish. His mom and dad experienced a lot of prejudice in the 50's when they were married. I think it's sad that we still judge people based on skin tone. My MIL and FIL have been happily married over 50 years, raised 4 children and are still very in love with each other. My dh has a wonderful dark skin tone that I so envy. We have 3 girls, the oldest is very light like me, and our twins have permanent tans.

So who cares what color the skin, I care what's inside a person.
Kim Q



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