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RE: How soon do you know... - 11/24/2008 12:24:32 AM
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rgod
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*shrug* All in all I don't like his books and worry when I see youths split up by gender because the girls are too afraid to talk to the boys and vice versa.
And may of these girls will wake up in their late thirties with their biological clocks winding down wondering where their husband is and having no clue about how to go about finding him.
It's very similar to the lie that feminism told to a generation. "You can have it all. build your career first and then have a family" Many of them will spend their lives alone because while they have a great career they've neglected to build a family.
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I am glad see someone else bring up some of the defects of what Josh Harris promoted. I even have a blog about his book. What really is sad how Josh Harris promoted what he says in his book as almost a perfect solution when even the church he now pastors have seen plenty of problems with this approach.
Harris was quick to point out the defects of dating but kept silent about the defects of his approach. Even when he acknowledged problems with how singles relate in the church he is Sr. Pastor of, he failed to share these on his blog.
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I agree with you. Thanks for sharing the link to your blog. I'll look it up. I think that a lot of people took Harris' word as the gospel, not realizing that he wrote the book when he was around 21 or 22 - when it is feasible to not date at all since you are around people who are your same age all of the time (usually). Also, he was advertising that he was single with his book; probably not intentionally! I believe that if Josh were single at 35 or 40, that while he might still advocate his approach, he'd probably be more open to other types of approaches as well.
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RE: How soon do you know... - 11/24/2008 9:24:04 AM
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Geocacher301
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I agree with you. Thanks for sharing the link to your blog. I'll look it up. I think that a lot of people took Harris' word as the gospel, not realizing that he wrote the book when he was around 21 or 22 - when it is feasible to not date at all since you are around people who are your same age all of the time (usually). Also, he was advertising that he was single with his book; probably not intentionally! I believe that if Josh were single at 35 or 40, that while he might still advocate his approach, he'd probably be more open to other types of approaches as well.
Harris indicates on his blog that he was 21 when he wrote the book. With this being the case, one would certainly think that most if not all of what Harris wrote applies to teenagers and not older single adults. Unfortunately when his book came out people took the "get on the bandwagor" approach and "took it as gospel" as you said and followed it without doing any real thinking. Fortunately, in most circles "kissing dating goodbye" was more of a fad than something long term.
I always wonder if Harris gave a more balanced approach to "kissing dating goodbye" including acknowledging the problems it has created would it have been more longer lasting than it had.
My biggest concern is that Josh Harris isn't that forthcoming to the body of Christ with problems that he observed in his own church with how singles relate to each other. He did acknowledge this to his own church but hasn't published these problems on his blog where a lot more people could learn from his own church's problems in this area.
What Harris Acknowledged (Only to his church)
My seeing this has really made me loose respect for Harris. I don't why he won't publish this to a more widespread audience? It could be pride, or hard to admit there are flaws with an approach that made him a best seller? I have even written Harris on this with no response back from him.
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