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RE: Struggling - 9/16/2008 10:41:34 PM
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makarizo
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if someone mentioned "walk in the Spirit and you will not carry out the deeds of the flesh"........ I am repeating it.
I think the greatest thing a believer can grow in is love. it comes from God, and it is something we can do, not just read about, or understand.
like a calling, or a mission, something to prepare for, something to experience,
above knowledge, wisdom, ..... even above faith. let love... Christ's love be something that people identify you wth.
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RE: Struggling - 9/17/2008 1:23:29 PM
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sunshine4God
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Wow, what awesome advice! When I can narrow my problems down to one to deal with, I'm asking you guys!
Sunshine, you've been handed a real treasure in this advice, and it comes from hearts of love. Take a bath in it and luxuriate!
The only thing I could add is what my husband keeps telling me: I only have the next five minutes. Do what God wants me to do the next five minutes. And the five minutes after that, and the five minutes after... you get it.
Good for you for fighting the good fight! So many things are spiritual battles, and the more we learn the better we can fight them (the devil has to run away if you resist him. Dealing with my own sin nature is trickier). Keep in the Bible every day, renew your commitment every morning, and thank God that He saved you! Wow! Isaiah 43 will help your self-esteem, too! 
God bless you, dear sister in the Lord. We've all been there, and we'll encourage each other. (((Hugs)))
Thanks so much for blessing me with your kind words and your encouragement.That truly blessed my heart.I have been thinking on all the good advice given to me and praying alot about things. Jesus is helping me and I am depending on him with all my heart and soul.Thanks so much for your reply and God bless you always,Love Sunshine.
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"Let your light so shine before men that they will see
your good deeds and glorify your Lord".
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RE: Struggling - 9/17/2008 9:37:31 PM
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sunshine4God
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I'm with you on acceptance then too. That is one of the BIGGEST things that I deal with on a whole. I really only have one GOOD friend and sometimes she gets tired of me and that kind of hurts my feelings because I never get tired of her. I guess I try to cling to people because I don't want to lose them, but I realized that God is the only One that I can cling to that I can know 100% sure won't ever turn away from me. And I am still working on wrapping my heart around that one. :)
I hear you Pops.I feel the same way about friends.I only have a few close friends and one of my closest has been really busy lately. I am clingy towards others also and some of my friends probably find that pretty annoying. I know God is the only one who is always there for me but sometimes I even have trouble believing that he always loves me and is always there for me. I am so much like you it seems like in alot of ways.That is really cool!
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Matthew 5:16.
"Let your light so shine before men that they will see
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RE: Struggling - 9/18/2008 4:30:21 PM
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SavedByGraceMD
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I have been trying so hard to grow in the Lord and made a list of things I want to grow in over this next year.The areas I am working on are watching what I say to not say the wrong things,and to really think before I speak,having more self confidence and growing in having more self esteem.I also want to become more patient about things. So far from the time I started trying to grow and really work on growing three weeks ago I have been struggling with every area. I still say the wrong things sometimes,am having a really hard time with my low self esteem and though I keep reminding myself God is always there still feel lonely alot,
and am having a very hard time being patient.Just this weekend after calling my friend and leaving her a message instead of waiting for her to call me back,I called her back so much pestering her that she purposely didn't return my phone call she was so irritated with me. I was so into journaling for a while and now sometimes have to make myself do it. I do see improvements now and than but I cannot seem to stay consistent.
I'm sorry this post is so long but I am just discouraged and don't know why its so hard to change. Any advice would be awesome.Thanks so much Love always Sunshine.
Sunshine, how are you doing today. I know how you feel. I do the same thing. I am a perfectionist, and when I try to do something, and it doesn't happen the way I want it to, I tend to beat myself up over it. I think I failed. It seems to me that you are the same way.
It is good to set goals for yourself. It is good to notice things that you want to change, things you want to work on. You just need to remember to lean on the Lord for help. He has started a work in you that He will finish. You may not see it yet, but it could take quite a while. We have habits, and tendencies that are hard for us to break. It is only by His strength that we can accomplish these things. Remember also that you may not see big differences, but the people around you may.
I also struggle with similar things that you do. My mouth at times, my tongue, my thoughts can be pretty bad also. I try to make the necessary changes, and find myself doing the same old things. The good news is that the frequency is less. My outbursts in anger are less, my cursing is much less, even though I have cursed regularly in conversation and in anger since I was a young teen. What plagues me most is my mind, my thoughts and my imagination. But I am most confident in the author and finisher of my faith, that He will do what He set out to do in me.
You sunshine, should be also. Take care, and stop getting down on yourself if you slip up. Just know that when you do, the Lord has his hand out to you, helping you back up.
and...the more you dwell on your problem areas, the worse they may seem. Let it go, give those things to the Lord, and He will help you deal with them.
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Isaiah 41:10
"Fear not for I am with you,
Do not be dismayed for I am your God,
I will strengthen you and help you,
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand"
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RE: Struggling - 9/19/2008 12:38:01 PM
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sunshine4God
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Sunshine, how are you doing today. I know how you feel. I do the same thing. I am a perfectionist, and when I try to do something, and it doesn't happen the way I want it to, I tend to beat myself up over it. I think I failed. It seems to me that you are the same way.
It is good to set goals for yourself. It is good to notice things that you want to change, things you want to work on. You just need to remember to lean on the Lord for help. He has started a work in you that He will finish. You may not see it yet, but it could take quite a while. We have habits, and tendencies that are hard for us to break. It is only by His strength that we can accomplish these things. Remember also that you may not see big differences, but the people around you may.
I also struggle with similar things that you do. My mouth at times, my tongue, my thoughts can be pretty bad also. I try to make the necessary changes, and find myself doing the same old things. The good news is that the frequency is less. My outbursts in anger are less, my cursing is much less, even though I have cursed regularly in conversation and in anger since I was a young teen. What plagues me most is my mind, my thoughts and my imagination. But I am most confident in the author and finisher of my faith, that He will do what He set out to do in me.
You sunshine, should be also. Take care, and stop getting down on yourself if you slip up. Just know that when you do, the Lord has his hand out to you, helping you back up.
and...the more you dwell on your problem areas, the worse they may seem. Let it go, give those things to the Lord, and He will help you deal with them.
Thanks so much for writing to me.I am doing much better.Everyones advice to me has been wonderful, and I have been very honest with God telling him how I feel. I have felt him comforting my heart and touching me. I am a perfectionist and have obsessive compulsive disorder. That doesn't help my perfectionist ways at all because,when I mess up I do beat myself up about things really badly. I have been reminding myself that nothing happens overnight and to thank God for every small change I see,instead of focusing on wanting more. These last few weeks I have started journaling and truly working on changing,I have felt closer to the Lord than ever.I just know with Gods help that I will be different,and that others will see and know the change in me. Gods already been doing alot in me,speaking to me,showing me things in myself,and drawing me closer to him.In the past if my friend had told me she ignored my phone calls on purpose since I was bugging her,I would have likely told her off and got defensive about it. Instead her frustration about my impatience spoke to my heart since I know that is something I need to work on,and I felt convicted about it.Thats gotta be the Lord.He has been reminding me of all He Has been doing in me whenever I focus on how much more I want to see. Have a great day and God bless you always,Love Sunshine.
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Matthew 5:16.
"Let your light so shine before men that they will see
your good deeds and glorify your Lord".
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RE: Struggling - 9/19/2008 1:19:04 PM
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Oldwing
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we need to think about what we say, (and what we think)
I believe this to be the core of not speaking in error. If we think about what we think and get that straight first, and firmly planted, then our tongues will follow naturally. Not knowing one's own mind leads one to say some of the most inconsistent things...
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These things I command you, that you love one another. John 15:17
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