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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/10/2008 11:07:37 AM
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I am praying for you Nicole.
Smoking is very hard too, so I will pray that he does not have the taste for it anymore.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/10/2008 11:20:33 AM
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Flintejae
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Nicole,
Like someone mentioned (can't remember who), I think showing your husband humility in confessing the areas you did wrong is a Good and healthy thing. It will often soften ones heart. HOWEVER, timing is key. I believe, with all my heart, that God is working miracles in your marriage. Speak to your husband about these issues when you have a peace to do so. Have fun, try to stay low maintenance in the emotional department, and see where your husband leads you in the next few days. That's my advice.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/10/2008 12:45:36 PM
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Nicole- Take things slow at first with hubby, don't overwhelm him. If you do decide to tell him what you have been convicted of, don't expect him to pour his heart out- if he responds well, great, but if not, DO NOT LET IT CHANGE YOUR RESOLVE! God has told YOU these things to work on and whether or not you have hubby's support, just work quietly with God on your own.
I agree with this 100%. I think keeping things "light" is OK, but I think showing him humility and a true spirit of repentance is more important. That's not to recommend that you brood all night and depress everone who comes within 10 feet of you  , but while mostly keeping it "light" you let hubby know that you have things to work on and that you plan on actively working on them. I think you showing that you are vulnerable and willing to change may soften his heart. But, as Jen said, if it doesn't soften him that isn't an indication that you need to stop working on those things. Your repentence and obedience mostly between you and God. I do hope hubby benefits from it, though.  The one thing I would recommend not mentioning at all is what he needs to work on right now. Let him work that out with God; there may come a time when hubby needs your help to discern what he needs to work on, but it doen't seem to me that now is the time and pointing out other's sins is only to be done under the direction of the Holy Spirit. So, keep it "light" and reveal your repentance and intentions regarding what you have learned about yourself and God through this time.
I'm going to add smoking to my prayers.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/10/2008 1:31:06 PM
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I'm going to add smoking to my prayers.
Me too. I grew up with a mom who smoked (and as I recently found out smoked while pregnant with me) and was only able to quit smoking after she nearly died one night. I understand how hard it can be.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/10/2008 5:13:35 PM
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Yep, Zippy nailed it!
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/10/2008 6:19:02 PM
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Thank you all for your prayers and advice.
I think that you are all right in what you have said. I sort of mentioned one thing to him the other night that I needed to work on and he was like "lets just wait until Nath is settled". But I think if the opportunity comes up then I will share what God has placed on my heart and get him to affirm whether that would be what he thinks is the most important things at the moment or not.
Thanks for praying for the smoking, I know he wants to quit too, he knows his health is important, especially after my dad had lung cancer from smoking and so did his grandfather.
He should be here this afternoon, we have a few things planned to do with the kids and then our date so it should be a good weekend. He is also coming next weekend and then we will go home.
My mum is starting to really annoy me, so if you can pray for that, she complains about the cleaning (i have cooked tea and washed ALL the dishes since we have been here, folded all the washing, vaccummed every day, I have no idea what she's complaining about) and about money, like Nath dropped a jar of spread and she carried on how it cost $3. I have bought all the food and more. Anyway, she is getting on my nerves, I have another week of it.
Thanks
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/11/2008 2:51:02 AM
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((((((((((((((((((((((((((NICOLEAUS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/11/2008 11:54:54 AM
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But I think if the opportunity comes up then I will share what God has placed on my heart and get him to affirm whether that would be what he thinks is the most important things at the moment or not.
I think looking to him for affirmation and leading in the ehaling process is really good. It will show him how you are respecting him and a bit of the change that is happening in your heart.
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My mum is starting to really annoy me, so if you can pray for that, she complains about the cleaning (i have cooked tea and washed ALL the dishes since we have been here, folded all the washing, vaccummed every day, I have no idea what she's complaining about) and about money, like Nath dropped a jar of spread and she carried on how it cost $3. I have bought all the food and more. Anyway, she is getting on my nerves, I have another week of it.
Thanks
Added to prayer list. Have you tried to speak with her about it? Maybe there is something specific you are ignoring that is causing her annoyance? Have you asked what specific things you can help with and what specifc things she expects? You may think of buying her a new jar of spread with an appology?
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/11/2008 12:14:33 PM
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((((Nicole))))
I missed this thread until now. Just want you to know I am praying. I hope you have a great weekend and are able to just spend some relaxed couple time together. I am SO glad things are going better with Nath! I'm sure that will take a lot of the stress off which will give you time, energy, and mental clarity to work on other things.
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/11/2008 7:25:25 PM
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nicole6598
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Hi everyone, HUBBY IS HERE!!!!
It was a little awkward at first, I just wanted to jump on him and not let go, LOL but we did have a cuddle and things were pleasant, once the kids were asleep we cuddled on the couch and fell asleep by 9pm, so we went into bed and cuddled and talked. I told him what God had shared with me and asked if I was spot on, he said I was, he shared a few things too, and told me I had done a good job with the kids and he understands how tired and stressed I would be. He said we both need to work on things and it won't change over night but he loves us and missed me and the kids and wants to work it out. So YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Going to be a long road ahead, but we can do it.
Thank you so much everyone for your love and support and encouragement and advice!!
Zippy- I will write you back on FB later, haven't time today :) I bought her another jar of spread :)
Purejoy- thanks for stopping in and encouraging me
Nicole- lol mum doesn't have a yappy dog but she does enough yapping on her own!!
Trish and Rachel-thanks for your prayers and thoughts!
Janine- Nath is 1 on the 24th of this month. He has slept the whole night through each night. The paed and doctors were right, he was just wanting me to comfort him and put him to sleep and he didn't have any self soothing abilities of his own. My Paed said he did controlled crying at 6 months with his children and they have all slept the night through. You can message me on FB if you want. You know how I feel about co-sleeping but if you want to talk it over with me, feel free :)
We are off to the hills for a drive and to take the kids to a farm, and take them to where we got married
Tomorrow is my Dad's birthday so we will visit with him and then sunday hubby goes home, but he will be back the next weekend for my mums birthday, Nath's party and my brothers 18th. Then we GO HOMMMMMMMEEEEEEE!!!
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/11/2008 8:33:14 PM
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Oh, Nicole!!! I'm so happy for you!! Take your time in getting back to me on FB if you need to... I'll wait! Love ya bunches!!
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/11/2008 9:30:08 PM
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Everything sounds great, Nicole! I'm so happy for you. Your posts are more coherent too since you started sleeping better, LOL.
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A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. -Proverbs 15:1
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/11/2008 9:53:45 PM
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Nicole, I'm so glad to hear that things are going well for you guys. You sound like a real family again!
Praise God for answered prayer!! Wooohooo!!
It must have been wonderful to cuddle with him!
Still thinking of you often, love ya!
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/12/2008 6:45:49 PM
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nicole6598
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Thanks girls :)
We had a great day yesterday, went to a farm, Grace and hubby had fun with the animals, I took lots of pics :) I have been trying to be really conscious of what I am saying and doing, so if I thought he could go a better way I just shut my mouth until he asked me (I know more of the city then he does). I also didn't interrupt if he was telling mum something but waited to add in instead. We have one more night together then he goes home for a week. Yesterday his bike stopped working and it will take a week down here to fix, he did so well not to smoke as normally he would if that had happened. So I am proud of him.
We had a great night bowling too, I beat him twice :) We went for coffee and cake too which was nice.
So thank you everyone for stopping in to check up and to pray etc I love you all!
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RE: Nicole's happily ever after encouragment and suppor... - 9/13/2008 6:38:35 AM
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cherish405
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Nicole, that's just AWESOME! Thankyou Lord!
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