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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/2/2008 11:57:38 AM
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thisistheday
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I had my last baby just after I turned 39. My doctor did not treat it as a high risk pregnancy. He did not encourage any extra testing due to my age. Nothng was handled any differently than with my earlier pregnancies as best as I could tell, and that was how I preferred it. It had been six years since I'd had a baby.
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/2/2008 12:23:24 PM
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Being older and more stable and having already been around the world a few times, I wasn't worried about what I was missing. I'd already done it all and realized this was more important.
Technically I'm not an "older" mom, as I was nearly 30 when my first was born, but I completely understand what you mean.
I'd had a chance to travel, go to college, work full time, all that good stuff. I'm happy for that time, and proud of my pre-baby accomplishments, but it also gave me a lot of peace about having children and making the personal choice to stay at home. I'm not saying that every woman has to make the same choices I did, but it's been working well for me and my family.
I still have to many memories about stressful deadlines and ugly-talking contractors to miss the working world all that much. 
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/2/2008 12:29:14 PM
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I had two kids in my early twenties, so that was easy and I did have lots of energy. I had three more in my thirties, and the youngest was born when I was 37. Now, I'm remarried to a man who had eleven kids, his youngest born to his late wife at age 42. She was fine with the pregnancy. It was cancer that she died of. The baby is doing very well and is now 4 years old. We were married just three years ago, so I tell people I had eleven in my 40's!! One has Down syndrome, and another has Mosaic Down syndrome. So I also have to rear special needs kids. It's all the same, really. No matter what age, you sacrifice your time and energy. It doesn't matter your age, nor how many kids you have. It's all the same. You give and give and give. You enjoy moments of pure joy, and the routine days speed by. Watching them walk down the isle, if God allows you to live to see that day, is such a blessing! I'm about to see a third daugther walk the isle. I consider her mine now that I married her dad. It's a wonderful life, the life full of kids and pets, meals and laundry.
I'm sure God will bless you in opening your life to His possibilities. May your quiver be full!
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/2/2008 12:56:45 PM
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trixie123
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deb77, i am crying as i just read your story. that's the life i want to live full of babies, family and happiness. May I ask a special prayer request of you? if you have the time please pray that i am able to completely get off anxiety med. i take 150 mg of wellbutrin per day and i have cut down to 3/4 of the dose for the last 4 days. i feel great but fear creeps in sometimes and i get afraid. I went off meds w/ my 2nd for 3 years successfully and i am a much stronger person mentally than i was then so i believe i can do it but prayer is gratefully accepted. thanks so much!! and God bless you and your beautiful family.
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/2/2008 1:00:15 PM
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trixie123
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thisistheday, thank you for your encouraging story, I would be so blessed if you would say a prayer that my dr. treats me exactly as yours did you, as that is a great fear of mine, that they will scare me and try to have me get all kinds of crazy tests, which i already know i will not do. i never had the alpha pheta protein test i denied it w/ all 3 of my babies. thank you for your prayers and God bless you!
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/2/2008 1:02:30 PM
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trixie123
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deermousie, thank you for your prayers they all make me feel so strong! i am winding down anxiety med so i am drug free, i ask that you please say a prayer for me in that area. thank you so much and thank you for your cool story! i am so glad you had a healthy baby!
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/2/2008 2:10:21 PM
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Karaboo2, wow! Praise God and congratulations. I think that is so fantastic!! I wish we had never had the vasectomy because I think of the babies we would have now but I have asked God to redeem the time lost which i believe He definately will. I think you are an inspiration!! I pray I can be as you and have lots more beautiful babies!! What are the ages and sexes of your little ones?
Girl, Ilene, age 7 1/2
Boy, Jacob, turning 6 in November
Boy, Joseph, just turned 3
Boy, Thomas, 18 months
Boy, Caleb, 2 1/2 weeks
(And yes, this house *does* have an overabundance of testosterone at the moment ... need another girl or three to balance it out!)
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/2/2008 2:18:05 PM
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trixie123
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i understand the testosterone thing w/ my 3 boys, my hubby and we even have a male dog!! i would love a girl this time!
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/3/2008 4:12:41 PM
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trixie123
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Hi guys!! We are so excited we scheduled our vasectomy reversal surgery for October 23rd!!!! Please pray that my husband is kept super safe and well and has a speedy recovery. We have a couple financial needs that are no big deal but I would like them paid in full before the surgery, more for my satisfaction than any financial need. Praise God that I have been saving $ for a rainy day not knowing what I was saving for but God knew and the surgery is paid in full!!
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/10/2008 1:21:28 PM
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deb77
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deb77, i am crying as i just read your story. that's the life i want to live full of babies, family and happiness. May I ask a special prayer request of you? if you have the time please pray that i am able to completely get off anxiety med. i take 150 mg of wellbutrin per day and i have cut down to 3/4 of the dose for the last 4 days. i feel great but fear creeps in sometimes and i get afraid. I went off meds w/ my 2nd for 3 years successfully and i am a much stronger person mentally than i was then so i believe i can do it but prayer is gratefully accepted. thanks so much!! and God bless you and your beautiful family.
Trixie123, Of course I will pray for you!
I do want to share with you that in the midst of my life, I've had to deal with some depression and anxiety too. I did not have to go on meds, but was able to deal with these emotions in light of God's word and a christian counselor. She taught me that walking in the spirit is living in truth, not fear. I was very fearful that my new husband would never love me as much as he did his late wife. I constantly compared myself to the sainted woman. I always fell short in my eyes. I learned that I have to see myself through God's eyes and walk in that truth. A big part of that is thinking the truth, not allowing lies to infiltrate my thinking.
After a year and a half of dealing with my fears, I am overcoming them. Note, this is a process, not an accomplishment. Having suffered difficulty from every man in my life, I tend to be very insecure and feel valueless. Jesus changed all that! He was a man, and He died for me! I can't begin to tell you what a wonderful life you can have right now if you just believe that one truth and keep it foremost in your mind at all times. Though my kids may be dissing me, my husband preoccupied, I can still feel very loved!! I can still know that I am beloved of God and because of that, I can love whether I receive in return or not. That is where I want to stay. It's easy to forget that one truth and fall back into fearing rejection for me, but as long as I remember the gospel of Jesus Christ, I can take my thoughts off of myself and put them on others, regardless of their behavior.
Pray for truth, and seek it until you are thrilled to the core. It will happen for Jesus promised if you seek Him, you will find Him. I say this to all Christians, because though we have salvation, we don't know Jesus like we ought to, and we can have life abundantly, which is love, joy, peace, etc no matter how many kids, divorced or married, ill or well. Nothing else will matter.
God bless!
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/10/2008 2:18:57 PM
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My mother was 40 yo when I was born. For all those statistics and comments about how unfair it is to the child and other sorts of things, to the child it makes no difference. You are who you are to your child. It matters that you are loved, encouraged, cared for, and taught what is true, right and good.
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/11/2008 1:54:55 PM
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After 10 years since my "baby" was born, I found out we were expecting again at 34 (me) and 35 (DH). It was a rough pregnancy, and although I have infinitely more patience with this new baby (who is now 14 weeks old), I had NO patience with my body during the pregnancy!
We now have 4 boys, ages 15, 11, 10, and 14 weeks. I agree with the previous poster who said her house was running a little high on testosterone lol! I'm right there with ya:)
I really think we're done now, but of course, God may have something different to say about that ;) Those of you who know my testimony will understand what I'm talking about. You can find it at www.myspace.com/jennleigh29 if you're interested.
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/11/2008 2:50:51 PM
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Trixie,
I had my blessing at 37. No complications, did not do all the testing. If your doctor does scare or pressure you, you can always try to find another doctor or go with a midwife.
My blessing just turned 5 and is the joy of my heart.
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/11/2008 9:20:29 PM
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trixie123
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narnia, thanks so much for your encouragement and to all on here!! I feel great, only 6 weeks till hubbys reversal surgery!!! We are so excited. We can begin trying in November and I am believing it will occur quickly! Can't wait to be expecting my new little one!!! Blessings to you and yours.
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/11/2008 11:14:15 PM
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thisistheday
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Praying Trixie, that the surgery goes well, and that you find a doctor or midwife that will provide the kind of care that you want.
Dee
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/12/2008 12:45:53 PM
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trixie123
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dee, thank you, you are so sweet. I am seeing my doc Monday and we'll see what he thinks. I think it is so common for women over 35 to conceive that it probably wont be a big deal to him. His office is quite progressive and he is young. I feel comfy w/ him as he delivered my oldest. Now I just need to pray for patience till the surgery! I can't wait.
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/14/2008 6:39:18 PM
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trixie123
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bzirk, thank you for your story. Was there a specific reason your dr warned you w. the last pregnancy? It wasnt just your age was it?
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/15/2008 4:50:23 AM
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What happened to me could happen at any age -- if someone doesn't listen to their doctor. The specifics of my situation were that I was over four months pregnant and showing signs of miscarrying for weeks. The doc told me there would be a lot of bleeding when there is a miscarriage at that stage of pregnancy, so I needed to come to the hospital when I started spotting. I waited for about 12+ hours and that's what caused the problem. If I hadn't done that, it would not have been the problem it became.
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/15/2008 11:29:05 AM
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What sorts of health complications have you guys had to deal with or be on the lookout for? My wife's 35; we're still a year or two out from having kids and she's pretty worked up about the "what if's".
-Dan.
not sure your age dan but there are male risks too. most people are only aware of traditional risks associated with the mother's age but male sperm breaks down as we age. again, 35 seems to be a magic number or maybe that's where the studies focus on, but it's a gradual process anyways. pregnancy by men over 35 lead to increased miscarriage rates as well as increased risk for autism, downs, bipolar, etc
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/15/2008 3:19:48 PM
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narnia
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Trixie,
While what Dan said may be true in some cases, don't let it rattle you. My dh is more than a decade older than I and our blessing is healthy.
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/15/2008 5:05:40 PM
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This is such a great and encouraging thread! Thanks everyone. I just found out we are having another one and I'm 35. The doctor sort of "scared" me with the Downs Syndrome talk. He said it was like one in every 250 get it when you are over 35. What?! I don't think so after reading this. I think they just want you to take all those tests. Forget it! We wouldn't anyway. Whatever happens and however the baby turns out is a blessing and God's will anyway. We aren't buying into any tests or scare statistics.
Trixie, I hope all goes well for you and your husband and I wish you many blessings.
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BTW...my hubby was 46 when we had our first and he will be 48 when our second is born. DD is a very healthy little girl.
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RE: Anyone have Babies at 35 or older? - 9/15/2008 10:35:18 PM
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granolagirl-CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! I am so happy for you! I know I will be on here announcing good news soon as well!! Thank you for your encouraging story-it's so great to know that there are "older" hubbies out there still wanting to have babies, in case you didn't read before my dh is 43. He is so excited to get the vasectomy reversal and we can begin trying around Thanksgiving!! Please let me know how you progress!! I would love to chat! God bless, Trixie
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This was my only pregnancy, and we almost had her at 5 months because I got dehydrated (apparently a common cause of premature labor). So I wound up in the hospital and then on bedrest the rest of the pregnancy, and she was fine. I didn't get a lot of sleep but otherwise it's been good. 
However, my attitude (and my husband's attitude as well) with my youngest is so much more laid back than it was with my older three children, and my youngest is also much more laid back than my other three. She just doesn't get rattled by things. She is almost nine but she seems like she's 39 in some ways.
