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losgan -> How to get him to notice me? (8/18/2008 6:35:46 PM)

There is a specific person I'm thinking of when I'm asking this - but it could apply almost every time I've been interested in someone.

He goes to my church, and I only know a little about him - but so far what I know interests me. And he has a WONDERFUL laugh!

Without being coy or obnoxious - how does a girl get a fairly shy guy to notice her, or at least talk to her?

One idea is to compliment is guitar playing, or his choice in vehicle (I'm a bit of a car person), but how do I keep the conversation going?

Is there a polite way for a girl to let a guy know "I'm interested in finding out more" without him knowing he's being 'told' that?



armydude -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/18/2008 8:52:28 PM)

Why do you want to "get him to notice" you?

Just be yourself. And give it time. He'll notice.



APZR -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/19/2008 12:38:43 AM)

You walk up, stand on his toes, smile and say... I like you, would you like to go get some lunch or coffee?



stamper_ben -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/19/2008 1:41:59 PM)

When I was in elementary school a girl would come up to me and hit me.

It wasn't 'till years later that I realized what it was she wanted.[:)] By that time she had moved across the country.



iwillfearnoevil -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/19/2008 2:24:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: APZR

You walk up, stand on his toes, smile and say... I like you, would you like to go get some lunch or coffee?


be direct as APZR says ... or you really have to be indirect, you can start stalking him on myspace or facebook ...



Child4Jesus -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/19/2008 2:34:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: losgan

There is a specific person I'm thinking of when I'm asking this - but it could apply almost every time I've been interested in someone.

He goes to my church, and I only know a little about him - but so far what I know interests me. And he has a WONDERFUL laugh!

Without being coy or obnoxious - how does a girl get a fairly shy guy to notice her, or at least talk to her?

One idea is to compliment is guitar playing, or his choice in vehicle (I'm a bit of a car person), but how do I keep the conversation going?

Is there a polite way for a girl to let a guy know "I'm interested in finding out more" without him knowing he's being 'told' that?


You are better off not beating around the bush so to speak. Be straight up. Hints can be misleading.

As for how to get him to notice you. Just be a strong woman of God. Show him the godly woman you are.



derek_from_canada -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/20/2008 3:27:44 PM)

Well, being direct will get you there faster and I think that's the better way as you get older. People respect directness.

"I'd like to get to know more about you, wanna get a coffee sometime?"
"I'm curious about you, wanna have lunch?"

Then you just opened the door, but wait for him to initiate the rest.

But perhaps you wanna try being the damsel in distress, making a "convenient" crisis and maybe he'll give you a ride home from church in his fine car? =)

Simplest way is to just talk to the dude, look him in the eye, find out what his interests are and ask him about them. Take an interest in him. Give him some attention.



losgan -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/20/2008 9:04:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: derek_from_canada

But perhaps you wanna try being the damsel in distress, making a "convenient" crisis and maybe he'll give you a ride home from church in his fine car? =)



The cat would be out of the bag when he had to move the jumper cables, pump, and jack-stands from on top of my spare tire!

Thanks for all the advice guys. From what I gather - it would be best to just be myself - but not be so afraid to just walk up and TALK to him more, rather than waiting for him to talk to me.

We aren't in 5th grade after all ... [:D]



vikingfan -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/20/2008 10:43:04 PM)

agreed. to me, there is nothing wrong with the girl starting the friendship...dating, of course, is another thing. one girl I knew came up to me and told me she tried to meet one new person per day and I was her person for that day and I wound up getting to know her.

Yes, the guy should lead...but that doesn't mean the girl can't show that she enjoys his company.



ChoirDJ -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/21/2008 12:48:46 AM)

I'll tell you what worked for one woman who wanted to get my attention. She asked a friend of mine about me, told my friend she would be interested in meeting me, and then passed her contact information to me through my friend. We've been communicating via e-mail for the past month or so and I will be going to meet her in person when the time is right. There would have been little to no chance of me noticing this woman (had she not taken some initiative) because she's in a different ministry and we only cross paths about twice a year.

So, my advice to you is that it's okay to be direct about your interest in meeting him and, if he's interested, he'll pursue you.



makarizo -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/21/2008 7:25:34 AM)

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Without being coy or obnoxious - how does a girl get a fairly shy guy to notice her, or at least talk to her?


talk to him/greet him/give him your smile (you have a very nice smile)
if he is a shy person,,, talking to him will develop a familiarity and comfort level.
if you can ask him the right question to get him to talk about himself, a window of opportunity for 'continued discussion' will happen........ he is shy, don't make him work too hard -)



netstroller -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/22/2008 7:12:37 PM)

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How to get him to notice me?

I would say go with what you want to be noticed for. If you want someone who loves God, then just love God in your actions. If you want someone who's looking for a great golf partner, then drop hints you're into golfing, and so on...



DaveW -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/28/2008 9:35:22 AM)

I was a very shy guy. I got angry at girls who tried to befriend me.

I would say pray for him. If you get the opportunity, pray WITH him. If it is meant to be, God will work on his heart.



buckifn -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/28/2008 4:08:13 PM)

Ask him to help you with some project. If he is interested he will take it from there.



dinomax55 -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (8/28/2008 8:44:45 PM)

I don't see what's wrong with stepping up to him. Get to know him, and if he still doesn't get the hint, ask him out. It's a date, not a marriage proposal..



MAP2010 -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (9/11/2008 8:39:50 AM)

I would say the best way is to get involved with stuff hes doing, if he is helping at your Church be a helper. I know the one thing that I like is a women who will stand by her man, a women who loves kids and cares for others. Thats worth a lot and would make me want to get to know that person.

Mark



losgan -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (9/12/2008 6:56:21 PM)

Well, I've been getting to know him (and developed my interest in the first place) because I volunteered in a similar area as he works in.

This past week - I also found out that he is in the same student age home that I'm in (working with high schoolers).



APZR -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (9/13/2008 12:12:45 AM)

Wooo Hoo! [sm=thumbsup.gif] Get 'em girl, good luck. [sm=raisedbrows.gif]



jn1010lf -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (9/13/2008 10:57:02 AM)

Hello losgan

How about simply being yourself, look into his face and smile naturally. And an honest compliment or two wouldn't hurt either.

But by all means, never, ever let him think you're after him. Most guys that are men at all will turn that down.



APZR -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (9/13/2008 4:51:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: jn1010lf
Most guys that are men at all will turn that down.

Here we go with blanket statements again that are not only wrong, but have no Biblical basis.



humbleinspirit -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (9/13/2008 4:55:19 PM)

Yeah, if I like the girl, then I like it when they show that they are interested in me as well.



losgan -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (9/13/2008 5:54:08 PM)

Isn't it possible to be interested, and show it, without being "after" him?



humbleinspirit -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (9/13/2008 5:58:14 PM)

Yes it is, just give those subtle hints that women do. Sometimes they get it, and sometimes they don't. Its worth a try anyway. [sm=cool.gif]



John_O -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (9/13/2008 7:40:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: losgan

Isn't it possible to be interested, and show it, without being "after" him?


I always figured if she was interested then she was after me. If she wasn't after me then she wasn't really interested.

However that doesn't mena you have to throw yourself at him. Follow Humbles advice, the little clue thing



iwillfearnoevil -> RE: How to get him to notice me? (9/15/2008 9:45:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: losgan
Isn't it possible to be interested, and show it, without being "after" him?


jn1010lf is very blunt almost to the point of trolling in other 'he says' posts, i wouldn't sweat it ... i don't think anyone one would call you a boy chaser for showing some interest (maybe starting subtly if you are nervous) ... i think it's all your choice of words, if you don't like 'after', pick something else ...



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