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GrowinBaptist -> RE: um. . . I'm having a problem. . . (8/17/2008 11:25:45 AM)
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No, you are not alone in this issue. It's a part of being human. However, it sounds to me like the enemy is really trying to get you to compromise...and by the tone of your thread it appears to me (although I may be wrong) that you are weakening. No one can tell you what to do, of course. But I can tell you right now because of experience that the consequences of giving in are not worth it. And I personally don't think it has anything to do with being a virgin. You don't know what you're missing, unlike those who DO know. You are letting this get the better of you, and believe me, I understand completely.
First of all, you are looking too far into the future. Let your future of being married/not being married rest in the Lord's hands. And if you are wanting to be married so you can have sex without guilt, then you need to rewire your thinking. That is a bonus of marriage, not a reason to get married. I caught myself thinking this way as well at one point until the Lord showed me what I was doing.
You say that you have a very busy and full life. Rhetorical question: How are you busy? Are you busy serving the Lord in your church and community or are you busy with work and friends? Are your pursuits for the Lord or for yourself? Are you spending time daily the the Word? Are you regularly attending worship or are you allowing your schedule to interfere with church? Again from experience, if we are slacking in our spiritual life the enemy will find that opening and go sailing right in. He will do/say anything to get us from turning our attention from the Lord. You are listening way too much to your body. I know the temptation to let this run wild! I know exactly how you are feeling! However, you say that you are "frustrated" that you are sinning. If you are merely frustrated then you are not REPENTANT. You shouldn't be frustrated, but appalled at what you are considering. Pray for conviction, that the Lord will show you how repulsive this thinking is to Him. Sounds to me like the Lord is trying to answer your prayers for "peace" and "pure thoughts," but you keep allowing your mind to go right back to it all. Truly practicing this takes discipline, and you're not going to conquer this overnight. But keep trying, even if it means you have to start over every ten minutes!
One more thing...find someone with whom you can pray about this and be prayed for. If you don't want people to know the exact nature of your request, just write/say something like "unspoken." The Lord will know what they are praying about. This is a struggle for all humans. After all, the Lord made us this way. But I will warn you again about not waiting until you are married. Think of it this way...say you compromise and lose your virginity outside marriage and don't marry the person with whom you lost it. Down the road you meet a good, strong Godly man who you DO marry. Do you want that other person's face coming between you and your spouse at any time? Do you really want that memory? How do you want to answer your children when they ask you if you waited until you were married to have sex? How would you feel about your example to them if you have to answer no, like I do? Remember...it won't be about just you at some point. Give this to the Lord and don't take it back. Let Him take it from you and you, in turn, need to give your all to Him.
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