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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 7/31/2008 6:02:15 AM
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scottiezsister
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My husband completes me.
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marriage- I don't think we are complete when we are alone.
As a single person hoping to get married (sooner than later) I am always told that "you should be complete before you get married and a husband/wife doesn't complete you. You are complete with God in your life." I'm just bringing up what is hammered into us single folk heads.
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 7/31/2008 12:26:42 PM
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realist_man
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I was much happier when I was single. Marriage is completely over-rated.
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/1/2008 3:20:31 PM
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TorchHeart
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I was really hoping for a third option.
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/1/2008 3:38:31 PM
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starvin.artist.gurl
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Absolutely married!! I love being married to my husband. 
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/1/2008 3:50:57 PM
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revbob4God
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Even with Sylvia painted literally from head to toe in lavender oil and liquid benadryl and near hysterical over having chiggers with a wedding coming on tomorrow, years upon years of diapers, screaming babies, and having to have the man talk with the grandson today amidst it all, despite those first difficult months of being married, getting used to one another and all of the adjustments, I must say married.
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/4/2008 1:21:14 AM
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Clickhereformoreinfo
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Yes, I was happier single, but my happiness is not the issue. My marriage has been a nineteen year source of misery. But, as C.S. Lewis said in The Four Loves, if a broken heart is what it takes for God to get my attention (or something like that), what is that in the light of eternity?
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/5/2008 1:26:04 AM
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Christian30
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I had 28 years single and 23 married (so far). I'm married to a wonderful and interesting Christian woman, and I'll say I'm happier married. This is a complicated question for me, though.
We've had incredible challenges in 2 periods though (first year, then after older kid problems starting in 2002), and I often fantasized about being single. What's tough for me if things are not going well is that I am a fiercely independent person and was very happy single and had a full life.
I had friends who were dying to get married but I was not. When the right person came along though, I was eager and ready.
We are happy, but worked through a very difficult period (2005-06), that was a very dark time. Then I wanted to live alone, but our pastor confronted us with some things and were both convicted of some sin in our lives.
If I outlive my wife though, I doubt I will marry again, even if still at a marriageable age. I adore my wife's family and have a hard time envisioning having another set of in-laws and such. But, you never know until you get into that situation.
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/5/2008 6:10:44 PM
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mrsrevbob
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Even with Sylvia painted literally from head to toe in lavender oil and liquid benadryl and near hysterical over having chiggers with a wedding coming on tomorrow, years upon years of diapers, screaming babies, and having to have the man talk with the grandson today amidst it all, despite those first difficult months of being married, getting used to one another and all of the adjustments, I must say married.
Awwwwe!
Married
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/10/2008 7:51:11 PM
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Shugs
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Oh, the responses are so sweet. I however have to say single. It is in this state, that i shall contentedly remain for the rest of my earthly years.
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/11/2008 2:10:19 PM
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buckifn
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As a single person hoping to get married (sooner than later) I am always told that "you should be complete before you get married and a husband/wife doesn't complete you. You are complete with God in your life." I'm just bringing up what is hammered into us single folk heads.
I heard that when I was younger too. But since I have had both sides of the story now I definitely think when God chooses your spouse He chooses someone that compliments and sharpens all that He intended you to be..and it works both ways. I have learned so much about kindness and patience from my wife...both areas that had plenty of room for growth. The kindness she shows others would never have occured to me in ten thousand years!
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/11/2008 9:29:23 PM
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DreadPirateRandy
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Single. More freedom.
If freedom were a field, I'd rather share it with someone rather than have it all to myself.
I'm yet to be married, but I HATED single life. I'm perfectly content in the relationship I'm in now. I wouldn't trade it for anything.
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Marriage is completely over-rated.
It's not marriage, it's who you're married to.
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/13/2008 2:46:27 PM
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Angie_K
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Married. 
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/16/2008 1:56:26 AM
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OneOfHisJewels
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Yes, I was happier single, but my happiness is not the issue. My marriage has been a nineteen year source of misery. But, as C.S. Lewis said in The Four Loves, if a broken heart is what it takes for God to get my attention (or something like that), what is that in the light of eternity?
May I please ask if you are a boy or a girl, if you don't mind?
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Now thank we all our God, with hearts and hands and voices, what wondrous things He's done, in whom the world rejoices.
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/16/2008 1:37:31 PM
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biblecat
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While both have their ups and downs, I have to say the the happiest times I remember in my life are from when I was single. I always enjoyed being single. If anything were to happen to my husband I seriously doubt that I would ever remarry or even look ot be in anything close to a serious relationship. I am definitely much happier in a single state.
Oh yes, single!
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/16/2008 5:07:52 PM
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NotDoneYet
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I think I would prefer being single. I'm tired of people depending on me, having to carry most of the responsibility...I'm over it. I crave solitude, peace, quiet, freedom.
But...I'm married, and although I do have biblical grounds for divorce, it isn't in the near future. I'll stay as I am...maybe someday.....
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/17/2008 12:01:02 AM
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gmc4Jesus
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I have experienced both. Although I can "survive" and be happy single, I prefer the companionship of a wife. We can do a lot of things together and share our lives with each other.
Definitely MARRIAGE!
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/17/2008 3:15:10 PM
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Prairiehiker
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Though I've been single for a long time, I would prefer to be married. I'm not made to be single. I'm tired of doing things all by myself or with my daughter.
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How great Thou art, How great Thou art.
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/18/2008 12:48:58 PM
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sdesir
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i dont know i guess i didnt find the right person bcuz i really preferred being single. At least then you can leave and go your seperate way. My husband and I is unequally yoked. He's a cheat, a liar, and I rather be single then spend life with him. Its gotten to the point that I make my schedule so severe so i dont have to come home. I believe in marriage believe me i do, but if its not your soulmate watchout because its a real nightmare.
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/18/2008 4:12:24 PM
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catlady11
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SINGLE
I've been single 47 years, lived alone for 30 years and married for 1 week and 3 days.
TALK ABOUT ADJUSTMENTS! Soon, I believe my answer will change to MARRIED!
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RE: Be honest!!! Which did you prefer MARRIED or SINGLE - 8/18/2008 6:29:06 PM
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Ninjaearth
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I've been single off and on, and honestly for a time I thought being single was the best thing (especially after going through the worst relationship I've ever been in). For me, though, it was more of being focused on the burdens of singleness and not the privileges. Being single, there are no limits to what you can do in your life: you move whenever you want, have total freedom in enjoying life, and have no commitments to be kept (except for those that matter). I also didn't have to worry about someone getting upset with me if I did something wrong and didn't have to put up with any unnecessary drama and the burdens getting shot down when I made the right decisions. That's why after some years, I thought being single was the best. The most important thing was also being able to get involved in things at church or school without having to worry about being home at a certain time. Nevertheless, I've always desired to be married!
Biblically speaking, being single provides more time in one being focused on serving the Lord. However, I do believe marriage is the intended purpose that God had in mind in order for us to carry out our full blessing as being His children. He even created man not to be alone and created woman for the reason of being the helpmate and the other part of the man. I say that because Eve was taken out of Adam; she was apart of him and it is him that she makes up as his wife. So, those post about the other person "completing" the person are very Biblical; just as we are part of the body of Christ as believers then both husband and wife are one (in Christ) according to the Scriptures. If the husband and wife to do not complete each other, but are already complete, then what do you make of the statements regarding marriage, more specifically, concerning the Lord's statement:
"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and join with his wife, and the two are no longer two but one." (Genesis 2; Matt 19). For just as there is a need for God in the hearts of man, so it is that God made man for woman and woman for man (1 Cor 11); neither is independent of the other. With that said, my total and absolute preference is marriage.
No, I'm not married yet, but I'm in a new relationship that's a month old. I've known this incredible young lady for over a year and just recently took things to the next level in late June. We originally met online through eharmony and went through the whole communication process. After awhile, we communicated outside eharmony through yahoo messenger. That was our primary way of communicating before we started talking on the phone the later part of last year. Over time, though, as we talked in general, the conversations began having noticable clues of interest in her part. I gladly returned some of them as I began to get really interested in her in general. That interest turned into more of a pursuit after awhile. I prayed about wanting to get into another relationship; I have a few failed relationships in the past as well as many lost interests (on both parts) and especially after the last one, I didn't want to get into a relation only for it to fail again. So...I was very cautious about pursuing this young lady and committing myself to her; for me, if it didn't work, it would be the last for a long while.
Thankfully, however, naturally, I just let things be and just simply trusted God that if it was His will for us to be together that He would work it out and let His hand guide everything so that what was meant to happen would happen. We've known each for over a year now and we recently met in person a month ago; things worked out perfectly! I do mean that! She's an incredible woman, strong spirited, strong opinionated, persist in pursuing what she wants, and very loving, friendly, and a great friend. She lives to take care of others (according to her sister); she is a gentle soul and very passionate about God. Although she's only 4.5 years younger than me, we are very similar in thought and often times are on the exact same page. Most of our talks are very serious; I find this interesting because I have a hard time sometimes trying to just talk to her in general (complete randomness chatter that is) but yet when we talk about serious high-tail issues we seem to go on for hours. Also, I've met her mom's family and it was like being right at home. During that week her and I got close; it was a bit awkward despite knowing her for a year, but we eventually got used to each other and essentially just let things go there pace. The most beautiful thing about this is that I have spent time getting to know her for a long while and I long to know her even more as the years come and go. I find that when I'm not hearing from her I miss her greatly (mostly because we are long distance right now) but also life doesn't seem as fun and exciting without her interaction. I do feel like she does bring something to my life that I didn't have before and I'm incredibly happy when she's around. Just thinking about her lights up my world! I'm talking about love and sunshine baby; the two fit very well. Aside from that, I understand perceive that we have similar situations we've faced in our past and she is a point in her life where she is ready to load up and settle in a career; exactly where I am now of course, although for me it shouldn't have been sooner. Plus, while she encourages me and makes suggestions of her own in helping me, she lets me make the final decisions in everything and supports whatever I decided; of course, I usually make sure it's okay with her, cause it'd be selfish to look out for own and not hers. Plus, we both know where we want to be and what we want to do in life, it's just about getting there. I told her that in this relationship, no matter what happens, we're in this together and we'll fight whatever is in our way together. If she wants to be with me, then she's going to have to work at wanting to be with me; the same, moreso, goes for me. I have made up in my own mind that she is worth everything and I that I want her to be my wife.
After a week of fasting and praying, during which she took a break from communicating with me (of her own choice and is why I did this because she was having some hard times at that point), she spent time praying about the direction of her life, our relationship, her feelings for me, and about what God was leading her to do in life. After the week was up, I asked her what she learned from that whole week during her mediation time; she told me that she realizes that I am important to her and that she loves me and didn't want to go a day without ever telling me that she loves me and that she wanted to be with me forever! I was completely moved and overjoyed to get this news and I really thank God for what He has done in her life and for Him having His way. I am looking to marry her in the next two years, with the engagement being sometime next year (after June, our one year mark) with the wedding being in 2010; we talked about Saturday morning when I told her that I was working on somethings for the next year and that the "question" would be one of things to expect next year, but she doesn't know the day; I do (lol). She said she hated surprises, but that this would be one of those things that would be worth waiting for.
Now...I said all of this to say that after years and years of praying for the right one to come into my life, after many disappointments and much trial and loosing myself to many, God has finally blessed with me an incredible woman who feels exactly the same way as I do; I've been supposedly "in love" before but it's been onesided; ;my last relationship was oneside with the woman loving me but I just cared about her (not loving her). For the first time ever....I am in love with the woman who loves me! I am extremely thankful and exceeding glad that my marriage days are a matter of years away; I"m in the process of transitioning into a new environment where I am going establish the first fruits of my life (a house, a car) so that when our day does come (even if it's much later or earlier than anticipated depending on what God does) we can enjoy it to the fullest. Being married has been a dream of mine and it's finally getting close; so close, I can literally see it on the horizon. No matter what, though, God is the center of our relationship and we entrust Him to have His way. Being single does have it's advantages, but for a guy like me, I've been suffering so much that it's good (though I don't like) in my relationship with God but it's bad because I've had to put up the so-called love-sick society and movies that promote love in an instant and happy; it doesn't work that way! I know my girlfriend and I will have our days and we are not perfect, but I am willing to see past her faults and deal them with them as God gives me grace and strength to do so. I love her and I want to spend the rest of my life loving her because of my choice to do so and His gift enabling me to do so; she said that she doesn't deserve me, but I don't deserve her! By no means at all!! As such, I can't help but just accepting her for who she is and understand that we both are of the Savior and are in need of Him; as long as she loves and lives for Jesus, she'll always be worthy to be loved and served for the rest of her life; I don't mind serving such a wonderful princess in the Lord, for I would gladly give my life for her to do so!!! So for me, marriage would be my absolute preference!!!!
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