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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/20/2009 9:39:01 AM
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Tinkerbell_
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Aren't they fairly humid?
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/20/2009 9:43:06 AM
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Yes they are, Tinky Winky.
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/20/2009 10:32:00 AM
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Yeah...hence why I don't want to go there. 
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/20/2009 10:34:04 AM
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The humidity isn't as bad as Florida's though!
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/20/2009 10:35:25 AM
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Well no...but I don't want to go from one humid place to another...LOL
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/21/2009 9:59:28 AM
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So...something weird came up recently and it threw me off but I can't deny the nudging of the Holy Spirit.
Last term Kyoudai and I were ministering to students every week. One of the students, Person, took a liking to my boys and enjoys spending time with them. At first I thought he was doing it in a mentoring state, but the more I noticed it the more I realised he was hanging out with him as a friend kind of thing. Well, Person is 18 and my boys are 9 and 12.
In the last few months I've just felt really weird around him. I don't like for him to touch me or hug me, I literally cringe when he runs up and hugs my boys, (and I mean runs up...) and I've felt weirded out when he comes over and hangs out.
He's a very sweet boy and his heart seems to be full of Christ...there's just something about him that I don't like and I don't know what it is.
Sunday night, he wanted to spend the night so he could hang out with Thing 2 all day yesterday and play Legos. At first I was okay with it but the more I thought about it, the more I didn't like it until I felt nauseas about it.
I told Thing 2 and he was okay with it and ended up spending the day at my parents.
I feel like I completely dodged a bullet by not allowing him to spend the night but I also feel like I owe him an explination as to why I don't like the idea. Has anyone else ever come across this?
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/21/2009 11:27:14 AM
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So...something weird came up recently and it threw me off but I can't deny the nudging of the Holy Spirit.
Last term Kyoudai and I were ministering to students every week. One of the students, Person, took a liking to my boys and enjoys spending time with them. At first I thought he was doing it in a mentoring state, but the more I noticed it the more I realised he was hanging out with him as a friend kind of thing. Well, Person is 18 and my boys are 9 and 12.
In the last few months I've just felt really weird around him. I don't like for him to touch me or hug me, I literally cringe when he runs up and hugs my boys, (and I mean runs up...) and I've felt weirded out when he comes over and hangs out.
He's a very sweet boy and his heart seems to be full of Christ...there's just something about him that I don't like and I don't know what it is.
Sunday night, he wanted to spend the night so he could hang out with Thing 2 all day yesterday and play Legos. At first I was okay with it but the more I thought about it, the more I didn't like it until I felt nauseas about it.
I told Thing 2 and he was okay with it and ended up spending the day at my parents.
I feel like I completely dodged a bullet by not allowing him to spend the night but I also feel like I owe him an explination as to why I don't like the idea. Has anyone else ever come across this?
It's simple, you are a single woman. He is a single man. That's the only reason you need to give.
But other than what you need to tell him, go with your gut, girl. That's why the Holy Spirit gives you one.
Oh, and maybe a non-specific chat with the Things regard appropriate and inappropriate behavior?
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You're the mama hen, it's okay to take care of your things any way you see the need to.
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/21/2009 11:45:04 PM
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I think you need to do what feels right to YOU (as you are led by the Holy Spirit). At the moment you are the head of your household (with the Lord as your King). I don't know this person of course, but it does sound a little off. I don't know anyone at the age of 18 who would ask to sleep over with a 9 and a 12 year old. Make sure that you are always around when he is with your sons. And I agree that you should probably have a talk with your sons about "inappropriate touching." I don't think you really owe anyone an explanation about it. It's a parental thing and you just don't feel comfortable with it.
Praying that God will provide you with wisdom how to handle the situation.
God Bless.
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/22/2009 8:26:30 AM
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I will say that this boy is VERY immature for his age. He has been homeschooled for his entire life and very little social interaction until the last few years. His father has also lived overseas for the past seven years and the mum works full time leaving the three kids at home by themselves.
It's not necessarily the age that got me, but the nudge from the Holy Spirit that had me hesitating.
I talked to my mum about it and she thinks I made the right decision.
*shrug* So we'll see how things go. I'll have both boys with me Friday night so we'll sit down and have a long talk about "inappropriate touching" and all that jazz.
Saturday is Thing 1's birthday party and I'm taking 6 people to the movies. Yippee.
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/22/2009 11:41:43 AM
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For at least the last seven years he hasn't. The dad left them about then and refused to support them. So the mum had to get a full time job and take whatever pennies he threw at her.
And she didn't work a straight 9 to 5 so her schedule is VERY wonky.
It's a very sad situation and I don't mind ministering to them, but I still have a feeling about him and I hate it because he truly is a sweet kid. There's just something...off...
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/22/2009 7:04:49 PM
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I have a story that may relate.
There is a special young man at the art school where I teach. He is a product of a single-mom-led home, though I think his mom is remarried. I don't think he is close with the new husband if there is one.
Anyway, years ago when we first started there, he was probably 12. He was just the lovingest kid I have ever known. He always greeted everyone with a full-body-hug.
AND ... he has a slightly affected manner and voice.
Over the years as we got to know him we realized that even though the affectations he has give a certain impression, there is nothing wrong with this young man. The affectations are not something he picked up from someone else...they are integral with him--the way God made him.
I have even had a parent ask me about him, and then still decide not to have their child in any classes in which he assists or is a student because they didn't want their child "influenced" by him. It made me really mad, frankly.
He is now 17. He is very artsy, and still very loving and giving. He is an AMAZING organizer...really, really gifted in that area as well as a talented musician. He has a girlfriend. He SAVED MY LIFE during the wedding--that gorgeous sanctuary was all due to his tireless work: I just gave him the materials and he made something fabulous out of it. While at the same time keeping me calm. And then functioning as usher and MC and I-don't-know-what-all on the day of the wedding.
I don't know if this story correlates with yours, Tink, and I definitely want you to keep your boys safe (so I'm not advocating sleep-overs or un supervised play), but please cut this young man some slack in your heart--he may need just exactly what you have to give.
I see him as being a bit stuck at the ages that your boys are now...that's when his dad left. I have one daughter that is a little that way: she's slower, not in intelligence, but in play and social ways, and I've always thought it was because she got a little "stuck" because of her dad being dead.
Maybe he needs a chance to "grow up" with your boys? Start with the stuff they are doing, and then mature--hopefully faster--into age-appropriate activities?? And what would be wrong with asking exactly what he is thinking when he wants to stay...and explain to him (like probably no one has ever done) that that would be inappropriate???
I don't know...I'm just thinking out loud and trying to play a little devil's advocate because of the experience we had with our friend.
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/23/2009 9:02:37 AM
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Esther...I think you hit the nail on the head. 
I am so glad G-d blessed me with you. *huggles*
I will definitely keep your words in mind and will not stop allowing him to come over and hang out, but will be keeping an eye on things and seeing how I can help him mature a bit.
Love ya, girl! *gives you Bugs Bunny smooches*
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/23/2009 11:27:53 AM
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quote:
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Love ya, girl! *gives you Bugs Bunny smooches*
Didn't someone say it was Wabbit season?
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/23/2009 11:32:15 AM
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Yep. Didn't you see Peter Cottontail hopping down the bunny trail???
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/24/2009 10:53:36 AM
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I have been reading some threads in another thread and one thing that someone said really bothered me. “How do you really know it’s G-d talking you, and when it’s merely your own intuition?”
How can I not know it’s G-d? There have been many times when G-d has spoken very clearly to me about things that I know weren’t my own thoughts. “G-d? Is it okay for me to continue with this relationship?” “NO! This is not the best choice for you!” “G-d, if this is true, would you please give me a sign?” “No. I have already given you my word.” “G-d…I’m really confused; can you help me?” “Read…(book in the Bible).”
I literally hear these words and know that it’s Him talking. I’m very sad that people not only don’t believe that it doesn’t happen, but it doesn’t happen to them.
There are times when I’ll tell my friends, “G-d and I were chatting about this and I feel like this is what I need to do.” and I honestly mean that I will hold a conversation with Him. He is my friend, my protector, my Saviour, my entire existence…if the communication is only on my side, what kind of relationship do we really have? And like a relationship it takes work and it takes time to nourish it. If I am not in the Word, or praying like I should be, I can tell a difference in our relationship. When I am immersed deep in Scripture, and spend a lot of time in prayer, our relationship flourishes and G-d and I do WONDERFULLY.
I also find it very sad that people have such a black and white perspective about things. Just because G-d tells us certain things doesn’t mean that He didn’t bless us with a brain to use. I don’t consider myself an unintelligent person yet I hear G-d tell me things quite clearly.
I don’t know…this is just really weird for me and I’m very sad about it. I wish I could prove to people that G-d really can tell someone who He wants her to marry, but until I am married, I can’t say this completely.
Just continue to pray for everyone. Pray that He will reveal Himself to them in ways that will blow their minds, and pray that they will be open and receptive to Him. I will be the first to admit that there are times when I am not open because to experience the power He has can be so overwhelming. But when I am…I am incredibly blessed and feel incredibly obedient.
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/30/2009 9:39:07 PM
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I was asked to comment on this and have been brainifying over it for a few days. First off, I don't think anyone can - or should - critique someone else's personal relationship with God. I don't know what's going on in someone else's head or heart; I have enough trouble inside my own skull! (The Bible only gives us two criteria for knowing if someone is a believer - their fruits and their obedience to the Word; beyond that, God knows the heart, not me or anyone else.)
That said, I want to state unequivocally that God does speak to us. I believe He primarily does it through his Word. The indwelling Spirit illuminates it, draws our attention to things (makes passages "pop" for us), brings it to mind, convicts us, etc. This is one reason I started the "What Scripture Spoke to You?" thread over in Singles.
God also speaks through Creation:
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Psalm 19:1-3
(1) The heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament sheweth his handywork. (2) Day unto day uttereth speech, and night unto night sheweth knowledge. (3) There is no speech nor language, where their voice is not heard.
Romans 1:19-20
(19) Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them. (20) For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse:
He also speaks through His ministers (pastors, etc.) but like the Bereans (Acts 17:11), we need to check what they say against the Word.
And without question I believe God answers prayer. So, without even touching on the subject of inner voices or impressions, we see many ways that God communicates with all believers. It's never a one-sided conversation.
But what of hearing God through an inner voice or impression? Can that happen? Of course! God can communicate however He chooses, and I believe He chooses whatever method best helps with the growth of our relationship with Him. However, I do think we have to be exceedingly careful since we're talking about something completely subjective. Remember, the Bible tells us in Jeremiah 17:9, "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?"
Many sincere people have believed that God spoke to them, only to not have the thing come to pass (the one sure-fire sign God gave to know when He did not speak). Or different people in the same congregation believing God told them opposite things (and we know that God doesn't contradict himself and is not the author of confusion).
Thus I think any inner impressions we get need to be weighed against Scripture when possible. If you're feeling prompted to do something God has already told us about in His Word, then no matter the source (God, a Spirit-sensitized conscience, whatever), listening to it is a no-lose proposition!
But what about when Scripture doesn't really speak to what the voice or impression is saying? Like the ever-popular, "This is the person you will marry." In those cases, I believe you need to apply Godly wisdom. As a general rule I don't think God would tell us to do something that would go against the principles of wisdom He gave us in His Word. For example, in the case of marriage, although there is not a lot in the Bible on finding a mate, there is quite a bit on the kind of people to look for and avoid, not to mention looking at whether they agree with the detailed commands for marriage itself. (Yes, Hosea would be an exception but he was a prophet that received direct revelation from God and there was a purpose in it - to give a message to the children of Israel.)
Yes, God can speak to us through an inner voice or impression. But I think it more important that we heed that which He has already spoken to us - His Word, and use its guidelines and Godly wisdom in our daily lives and decisions (which includes praying about them and asking Him for wisdom). I notice that two of Tink's examples above directed her to the Word! And using our heads is not wrong, so long as we are humble about it and submit our plans to Him, realizing He has the final say. (Again, I believe the Bible's characterization of us as stewards is apt. Stewards are given instructions and then go about their jobs on their own initiative within the specified bounds. The master doesn't micromanage them, but he may occasionally give direct instructions and/or new tasks.)
Lastly, some consider the "hearing of God" through an inner voice or impressions a measure of a person's spirituality, or even whether they're saved (often citing John 10:27, "My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me:"). But this article posted by Prairiehiker in a thread in Singles addresses such usage of John 10, about 1/3 of the way down the page. (And besides that, could not the Lord's "voice" be the voice of Scripture?) Again, I do not believe God's choice to communicate with different believers in different ways has any bearing on their spirituality, and believe it wrong to make such a judgement on that basis.
Well, I hope that rambling made sense! 
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 8/25/2009 2:40:31 PM
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Tink,
I used to shop and only get what was on sale (unless I needed something specific). I'd let the sales guide my menu choices for the week. I'm not a coupon cutter, but I used to amaze my roommate at how much money I'd save by doing it that way. I'd look at the ad, find a few things with really good deals, and get those on my trip (along with the other stuff). It really doesn't take that much more time.
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