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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 6/23/2009 5:16:15 AM
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bootsNspurs
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So I was talking to some girlfriends of mine recently and discussed the "horror" of being a single, independent woman. One who isn't a damsel in distress. One who rescues herself from the dragon. You know the type.
The women like me and my girlfriends.
So last night I was at VBS (which was FREAKIN' AWESOME!!! btw!) and one of the ladies as me if I was dating anyone. I told her, "No, but apparently it's because I'm too independent." 
And she was like, "Well I could have told you that! You'd have to be a strong, independent woman to raise two boys!"
*blink*
Mind you all of this is very new to me...LOL I never saw myself as independent until recently. 
But it's all good. I'm no one's damsel in distress. Period.
Ditto.
Well... unless there's a spider. Then I'm definitely in distress, and I will DEFINITELY allow myself to be 'rescued' from the evil creature. But... otherwise, Ditto.
Tink, you are definitely independent. That's more good than bad, IMO. And I definitely mean it as a compliment when I say you are independent. 
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 6/23/2009 6:23:20 AM
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The thumbs up is cool with me.
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 6/23/2009 10:11:54 AM
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Well... unless there's a spider. Then I'm definitely in distress, and I will DEFINITELY allow myself to be 'rescued' from the evil creature. But... otherwise, Ditto.
I'm the same way with a big ugly cockroach. *shudders* I will climb furniture for that and not too picky as to who kills it. I will even sacrifice my first born for such a feat.
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Tink, you are definitely independent. That's more good than bad, IMO. And I definitely mean it as a compliment when I say you are independent.
Thank you! I definitely take it as a compliment. 
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Guys don't realize that the "damsel in distress" bit only works for a short time. After the distress is over, there has to be something there to build on or the whole thing goes away.
You are a mage of wisdom, you know that? I knew there was a reason I kept you around. *huggles*
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I think we all want to be "needed", and all want our spouse or love to want to help us and to help them, but that's something different, imo.
This is soooo true! I do need someone to help me with some things, but I don't feel right asking people for things that I don't need to be asking them for.
That didn't sound like it came out right so let me try again.
There are things in my life that I can provide for myself, and there are things in my life that I want/need/whatever that only a spouse (husband in my case) can provide. I'm well aware of what I can provide for myself; I want someone to provide for me what I can't.
Does that make better sense?
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 6/30/2009 10:19:02 AM
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I will definitely be praying for you. God's best is yet to come, my friend.
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 6/30/2009 1:46:00 PM
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Tink!
**huggles**
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 6/30/2009 1:55:52 PM
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Me I am just the opposite I tend to be on the quite side. I probably need to step out a little more. Too bad we couldn't trade or something.
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 6/30/2009 7:27:30 PM
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I'm pretty outspoken. I may have found somebody who likes it though.
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/1/2009 8:46:19 AM
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I don't think it's a matter of outspoken. From what Tisha said it's a matter of having, "I can do it, and have been doing it all by myself thank you very much."
I have become so self reliant that I (may or may not) be putting out the signal that I don't need a man.
Does that make sense?
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When I'm broken down and I can't stand
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/1/2009 9:06:11 AM
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I think part of the issue is that a lot of men feel the need to be needed. That is how men show their love for the women in their lives, usually. We like to do things to help. When we're not needed for that, we can start to wonder if we're needed for anything.
Does that mean that you should act helpless so he can do things for you and feel needed? Not necessarily. I believe that the best way to make a man feel needed would be to find out what he does best and let him do it. I think of Bill Cosby's character from the Cosby show trying to do plumbing work. He wasn't good in that area. So his wife, being the genius she was, called a plumber.
An example from my own life. My wife loves the idea of working on cars. I don't. Most people look at us and say we're backward. I don't think so, because she has abilities in that area while mine are elsewhere. She needs me to do what I'm good at doing and vice versa.
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/1/2009 9:14:59 AM
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I do understand.
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/1/2009 10:00:32 AM
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And another thing on that subject that I've learned.
It's one thing to be capable. When you are independant you are used to doing things by yourself. After all, how else is everything going to get done?
But when you have someone who is capable and willing to help, letting that person help does not mean that you're not capable of doing. Of course you're capable, silly! And of course you don't NEED help, but by refusing said help you are robbing that person the joy of helping you out.
Kind of like a pride thing. :)
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/1/2009 10:06:31 AM
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BlessedAngel1983
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Exactly! FB took the words right out of my mouth!
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RE: Don't even TINK about it! aka...Welcome to Andalasia! - 7/1/2009 10:22:36 AM
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armydude
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I have to agree with FB's point as well. One thing that I am learning is that it takes as much (if not more) humility to receive than it does to give.
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