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First date insecurities?


“I’m not his/her type.”
  23% (15)
“I’m afraid I'm going to do something stupid.”
  15% (10)
“What if I have to let this person down eventually?”
  17% (11)
“I’ll accidentally offend my date.”
  4% (3)
“I’m terrible at small talk.”
  23% (15)
“Ending the date is so awkward.”
  6% (4)
Other (explain below)
  7% (5)
None. I'm flawless and have no insecurities
  1% (1)


Total Votes : 64
(last vote on : 9/3/2008 10:31:19 PM)
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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/30/2008 5:48:49 PM   
Grace-N-Mercy


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Status: offline 		Hey, guys! I was just doing a little reading in a chapter called "Be Yourself from the Beginning" and came upon this quote: "If you are not yourself, you give the person less to be attracted to."

I like that!! -- and I learned that many years ago. You never know what's going to be attractive to another person. There may be something about you that you think is ho-hum ordinary. Or maybe it's even something you don't like about yourself. You have NO IDEA what your date may or may not like. I've been surprised a number of times so it's very important on those first few dates to just BE YOURSELF. That should minimize those first-date jitters.
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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/30/2008 11:42:07 PM   
John_O

 

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ORIGINAL: Grace-N-Mercy

Hey, guys! I was just doing a little reading in a chapter called "Be Yourself from the Beginning" and came upon this quote: "If you are not yourself, you give the person less to be attracted to."

I like that!! -- and I learned that many years ago. You never know what's going to be attractive to another person. There may be something about you that you think is ho-hum ordinary. Or maybe it's even something you don't like about yourself. You have NO IDEA what your date may or may not like. I've been surprised a number of times so it's very important on those first few dates to just BE YOURSELF. That should minimize those first-date jitters.


This is true. I once met someone who liked all the little quirks I had that I thought would scare people off. She even liked my nose!

You never know what people will like about you

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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/30/2008 11:44:44 PM   
Tinkerbell_


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Status: online 		I recently met someone who cracked up because I snort when I laugh.

He said he had never met a woman who felt comfortable enough to do that until after the fifth or sixth date let alone before the first.

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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/30/2008 11:52:59 PM   
Prairiehiker


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ORIGINAL: Tinkerbell_

I recently met someone who cracked up because I snort when I laugh.

He said he had never met a woman who felt comfortable enough to do that until after the fifth or sixth date let alone before the first.



...now I dare you to fart really loud during your next date, lol.......

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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/30/2008 11:54:05 PM   
Grace-N-Mercy


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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker

quote:

ORIGINAL: Tinkerbell_

I recently met someone who cracked up because I snort when I laugh.

He said he had never met a woman who felt comfortable enough to do that until after the fifth or sixth date let alone before the first.



...now I dare you to fart really loud during your next date, lol.......


ROFLMHO!! At both of you!
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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/30/2008 11:58:13 PM   
Tinkerbell_


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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker

quote:

ORIGINAL: Tinkerbell_

I recently met someone who cracked up because I snort when I laugh.

He said he had never met a woman who felt comfortable enough to do that until after the fifth or sixth date let alone before the first.



...now I dare you to fart really loud during your next date, lol.......

Okay...that's pushing it!!! I'm quite the lady thank you very much!!!

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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:00:02 AM   
John_O

 

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker

quote:

ORIGINAL: Tinkerbell_

I recently met someone who cracked up because I snort when I laugh.

He said he had never met a woman who felt comfortable enough to do that until after the fifth or sixth date let alone before the first.



...now I dare you to fart really loud during your next date, lol.......



Followed of course by the obligatory "I dare you to beat that!"

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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:04:24 AM   
Prairiehiker


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quote:

ORIGINAL: John_O

quote:

ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker

quote:

ORIGINAL: Tinkerbell_

I recently met someone who cracked up because I snort when I laugh.

He said he had never met a woman who felt comfortable enough to do that until after the fifth or sixth date let alone before the first.



...now I dare you to fart really loud during your next date, lol.......



Followed of course by the obligatory "I dare you to beat that!"


Don't tell anyone...I'm sure I've laughed so hard during a date that I've farted and snorted at the same time....even spit out my coffee at times....

Now you wonder why I'm single, lol.

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O Lord my God, When I in awesome wonder,
Consider all the worlds Thy Hands have made;

Then sings my soul, my Saviour God to Thee
How great Thou art, How great Thou art.

<<<dogsledding at the Canadian Rockies
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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:08:00 AM   
humbleinspirit


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Status: offline 		I am afraid that when I talk or laugh that something such as spit will come flying out of my mouth. Now how do you recover from that? Pretend that it never happened?

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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:10:57 AM   
John_O

 

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Status: online 		My normal laugh when I really get going is kind of a snort. And since I laugh a lot most dates get used to it fast. I've had some laughing at my laugh. (and if she has a funny laugh we can go into simultaneous meltdown mode!!)

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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:12:07 AM   
humbleinspirit


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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:13:40 AM   
Tinkerbell_


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker

quote:

ORIGINAL: John_O

quote:

ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker

quote:

ORIGINAL: Tinkerbell_

I recently met someone who cracked up because I snort when I laugh.

He said he had never met a woman who felt comfortable enough to do that until after the fifth or sixth date let alone before the first.



...now I dare you to fart really loud during your next date, lol.......



Followed of course by the obligatory "I dare you to beat that!"


Don't tell anyone...I'm sure I've laughed so hard during a date that I've farted and snorted at the same time....even spit out my coffee at times....

Now you wonder why I'm single, lol.

Hahaha!!! We are so kindered souls!!!! ROFL!!!!!

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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:13:59 AM   
Prairiehiker


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ORIGINAL: humbleinspirit

quote:

I am afraid that when I talk or laugh that something such as spit will come flying out of my mouth. Now how do you recover from that? Pretend that it never happened?


--first, swallow all your spit if you feel any inclination to talk,
--don't talk too much.
--don't talk at all....just listen intently, and nod. Let your facial expression speak for you....

(humble, I'm kidding, don't ever follow any of my advice if it's latenigh and I'm dead tired).

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O Lord my God, When I in awesome wonder,
Consider all the worlds Thy Hands have made;

Then sings my soul, my Saviour God to Thee
How great Thou art, How great Thou art.

<<<dogsledding at the Canadian Rockies
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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:16:12 AM   
humbleinspirit


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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker

quote:

ORIGINAL: humbleinspirit

quote:

I am afraid that when I talk or laugh that something such as spit will come flying out of my mouth. Now how do you recover from that? Pretend that it never happened?


--first, swallow all your spit if you feel any inclination to talk,
--don't talk too much.
--don't talk at all....just listen intently, and nod. Let your facial expression speak for you....

(humble, I'm kidding, don't ever follow any of my advice if it's latenigh and I'm dead tired).


Hi Prairie, usually it is while I am eating something, so embarrassing!

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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:18:08 AM   
Tinkerbell_


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Status: online 		I've shot a bite of meat across the table once from laughing. Slightly mortified I was...LOL

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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:19:50 AM   
Prairiehiker


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usually it is while I am eating something, so embarrassing!


so, next time, when you decide to take your date out for dinner, go to a place with an outside patio. If when you're talking and spit comes out, just say...."did you feel a drop of rain? funny, there's no rain in the forecast....." Blame it on the rain...la la la...

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Consider all the worlds Thy Hands have made;

Then sings my soul, my Saviour God to Thee
How great Thou art, How great Thou art.

<<<dogsledding at the Canadian Rockies
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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:22:47 AM   
humbleinspirit


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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:22:50 AM   
Prairiehiker


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quote:

I've shot a bite of meat across the table once from laughing. Slightly mortified I was...LOL


You could have said..."I ordered my meat well done, but I think this one's still alive...it's still flying (only if you ordered a chicken, lol)"

Again, don't take advice from me....I've been forever single and dateless...

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O Lord my God, When I in awesome wonder,
Consider all the worlds Thy Hands have made;

Then sings my soul, my Saviour God to Thee
How great Thou art, How great Thou art.

<<<dogsledding at the Canadian Rockies
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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:23:42 AM   
Tinkerbell_


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Status: online 		That is one flaw I have that I TRULY wish were rectified...I am slow witted so I would say something like that...three days later.

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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:24:11 AM   
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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:29:37 AM   
Grace-N-Mercy


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Status: offline 		PH, we need to have you on speed-dial so we can text in the middle of a date... this quick-witted humor is priceless!!!
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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:31:56 AM   
Prairiehiker


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PH, we need to have you on speed-dial so we can text in the middle of a date... this quick-witted humor is priceless!!!


I rehearse them because I goof off so many times on a date....

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O Lord my God, When I in awesome wonder,
Consider all the worlds Thy Hands have made;

Then sings my soul, my Saviour God to Thee
How great Thou art, How great Thou art.

<<<dogsledding at the Canadian Rockies
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RE: First date insecurities? - 8/31/2008 12:33:30 AM   
Tinkerbell_


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PH, we need to have you on speed-dial so we can text in the middle of a date... this quick-witted humor is priceless!!!



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RE: First date insecurities? - 9/1/2008 12:53:59 PM   
losgan


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Status: offline 		I think all these little things are why I don't like online dating!

The first time you meet them is pretty much the "first date" ... and every little thing has a totally different meaning and weight than if you are on a date with someone you already know in person.
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RE: First date insecurities? - 9/1/2008 10:17:36 PM   
John_O

 

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Status: online 		Actually I seem to do pretty good with first dates.

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