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ORIGINAL: GrowinBaptist

You are right, usa777, when you say that some people only put a half-hearted effort into finding someone. However, there is a distinction between a half-hearted effort and leaving it in the Lord's hands. The Lord didn't put the desire to be married in you for no reason. But He is more interested in seeing if you are going to trust HIM first with your future...every aspect of it...before He'll give you a spouse. If you are not content single, then you will not be content married. And this is something I'm working on myself at the moment, although I really haven't fussed too terribly much about not being married.

I've mentioned a book on here before...you may not have seen it. It's called Lady In Waiting: Becoming God's Best While Waiting for Mr. Right (I can't remember the authors' names). Several of the single ladies in my Sunday School class...including some who have no intention of ever gettting married...are involved in our study of this book. I can't tell you how much of a difference it made in my own outlook...basically saw that I had everything backwards! I need to be spending my time working for the Lord...not whining because I am not married when I would really like to be. And do you know what? The more time you give for Him, the more you do for Him, the more the fears start vanishing. The more you'll see that living for the Lord and preparing yourself for your true Bridgegroom (the Lord!) is what matters. I understand your frustration with the worldly motives of men (and women!) these days, even within the church in regards to finding a mate. But good, Godly men ARE out there...I personally know of a few right in my own Sunday School class. Don't give up quite yet...see what YOU can do for the Lord instead of worrying about how other people are choosing mates these days. I highly suggest reading this book...it will tell you the great secret to true contentment in singleness...surrendering it all to Him once and for all, even if you have to start over and over again.