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30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/19/2006 6:16:01 PM
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agapemami
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Welcome...if you're here, that means you've come to terms w/being 30/30+. Congratulations. You may also need to admit that you want a spouse...
Someone asked me if they could pray for a spouse for me, I nearly cut his head off. WHO ME, IM NOT LOOKING!!!!!! If it happens, it happens, I DONT CARE. This guy(My Life in Christ teacher) must have thought I was nuts.
Here is where I am:
1.I love being 32.5...not afraid of the numbers going up since Ive found Christ
2. Im losing interest in wanting children:(
3. I wouldnt mind someone w/kids (good kids)
4. I dont feel theres anyone for me though (I know Im not called to be single, thank you)
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/19/2006 6:30:39 PM
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Hi agapemami
I am 32, being recently divorced I have a dislike for men in general right now! I am focusing on getting a job and fostering children ( going though the certification).
I come from a family that would prefer that I stay single for the rest of my life and i haven't made a concrete decision in that area. I agree with you that sometimes I don't care either. I guess if somebody dropped out of the sky that was perfect for me I would consider a new romantic relationship.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/19/2006 6:56:20 PM
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Truthfully its better to be thirty and looking for a first relationship. It is a good time because you know what is best for you.
I also was depressed when I turned thirty --for different reasons though.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/19/2006 7:38:04 PM
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[Slowly walking hesitantly into the room]
Um, hello everyone, I would just like to announce that as of Wednesday, I will be officially eligible to join this thread.
Hmm.30. Thirty. Thiiiiirrrteee.
Yep, still in denial.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/19/2006 7:44:13 PM
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agapemami
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Truthfully its better to be thirty and looking for a first relationship. It is a good time because you know what is best for you.
Ive made some new 30something friends who are in new relationships, it will be nice to see how it works out for them. One girl is 32 and recently started her first relationship! I agree, its better, to be looking at 30.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/19/2006 7:46:50 PM
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agapemami
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[Slowly walking hesitantly into the room]
Um, hello everyone, I would just like to announce that as of Wednesday, I will be officially eligible to join this thread.
Hmm.30. Thirty. Thiiiiirrrteee.
Yep, still in denial
Welcome!....well, enjoy your last few days of being 29! You are still in your 20s!
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/19/2006 7:55:46 PM
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FunBetty
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ORIGINAL: agapemami
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ORIGINAL: jungleskippertina
[Slowly walking hesitantly into the room]
Um, hello everyone, I would just like to announce that as of Wednesday, I will be officially eligible to join this thread.
Hmm.30. Thirty. Thiiiiirrrteee.
Yep, still in denial
Welcome!....well, enjoy your last few days of being 29! You are still in your 20s!
Thanks! Perhaps I should go do something crazy...like TP someone's house or something. hahaha  Who in their right mind in their 30s do such a thing?
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/19/2006 8:32:04 PM
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I'll be able to chime in on this thread in one year and eight days.
I don't forsee anything happening relationship wise within that time.
When I turn 30, I'll know I have 20 years left to find someone, because I'm not going to bother after 50.
Next month I will be starting my third year of prayer for God to bring someone to me.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/20/2006 2:12:55 AM
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ORIGINAL: agapemami
Someone asked me if they could pray for a spouse for me, I nearly cut his head off. WHO ME, IM NOT LOOKING!!!!!! If it happens, it happens, I DONT CARE.
Hey cool idea Agape...I'm in at the other end of the spectrum...37, but I tell everyone 38??  And also opposite ends to your intro......LOL. I tell EVERYONE to pray for me. And ITS GONNA HAPPEN AND SOON..so help me Jesus !!!! 
But I'm pretty contented. I did a hike yesterday and I was reminded of a recent thread about being alone vs lonely. I kept passing couples on the track and so I kept checking myself "am I lonely, am I lonely?" " do I want someone here with me now?" . And the answer was "nah!! Lord I'm sweet!!  ....well for today anyways..
LOL!
I'm not even 21 yet (  ) but I'm stopping by to say a few words anyway.
Regardless of what happens, keep your faith and hope in Christ, not in a man/woman. Ultimately, none of us is perfect. Only the Lord Himself is!
Trust in Him, not your own understanding, and the Lord will be with you.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/20/2006 3:33:58 AM
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Hi: I'm 34, will be 35 later this year. I'm newly single and it's scary because I haven't been single for a long time.
But, I am trying to remain strong in my faith and know that things happen for a reason. I feel like God is calling me to use this time to draw nearer to Him. So, I am going to do just that.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/20/2006 7:40:56 AM
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agapemami
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"God, just as you put Adam to sleep until the perfect one for him he was ready to meet; so put me and my desires to sleep until I too am ready to know the one you have chosen for me."
Someones prayer from Lady in Waiting by Debby Jones and Jackie Kendall. Nice, huh? I wish that for myself too.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/20/2006 7:53:11 AM
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agapemami
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When I turn 30, I'll know I have 20 years left to find someone, because I'm not going to bother after 50.
haha! Not going to bother after 50, thats really funny!
My 1/2 sister is 50. She found somebody special not too long ago, but shes not a Christian though and doesnt value marriage like we do.
If I dont find someone by 35, Im going to be a little upset.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/20/2006 7:59:03 AM
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ORIGINAL: agapemami
"God, just as you put Adam to sleep until the perfect one for him he was ready to meet; so put me and my desires to sleep until I too am ready to know the one you have chosen for me."
Someones prayer from Lady in Waiting by Debby Jones and Jackie Kendall. Nice, huh? I wish that for myself too.
Ahh, nice prayer...and I know that I have prayed something similar to that countless times throughout the years.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/20/2006 8:00:32 AM
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Here's something I posted in myblog on myspace, relevant to the topic at hand:
" So to the birthday. I have been dreading it for over a year now. I think the dread stemmed from my 25th birthday "crisis", when I looked back on my life and realized that I was not where I thought I would be at that age. I had expected myself to have a career, married, with possibly kids on the way. That is what society has taught us, right? Instead, my career was being a teacher- something I didn't hate but I knew it wasn't what I was called to do, and obviously I was single. I probably figured that would all change by 30, so when I knew the date was coming, I knew that I would be exactly where I was 5 years ago. It was a frustrating thought.
But then a new thought came- I may not be where I thought I would be, but that does not matter- because my life is full of joy. I have wonderful friends who support me and encourage me. I have a family that loves me and supports me- sure, they may drive me nuts from time to time, but we love each other so some of it just comes with the territory. I've been placed in a new job that I really like and will help support me through school. I have the priviledge of leading children's choir for kids that are fun and have wonderful hearts. Life is not always easy, but I have everything that I need-- God has blessed me with an abundant life indeed!
So here's to my last few days of being 29, and to a wonderful week to come! I am excited about what God has in store for me"
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/20/2006 11:47:45 AM
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I'm 37, never been on a date, let alone had a relationship. I really want to be married though. I used to think that God wanted me single, but I think it was more that fact that I had issues with men and was denying it. Can't have kids and I don't fit the criteria for adoption, but that's ok. Like agapemami, I don't feel like there's anybody out there for me, but God can feel free to prove me wrong on that one.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/20/2006 12:55:38 PM
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haha! Not going to bother after 50, thats really funny!
It was a thought I came up with a while back. I decided that if I was still single at age 50, I would commit what remains of my life to singleness. Then do mission work after I retire. I'm under the conviction that God put this idea in my head. In my opinion, after 50 is too late to start a first marriage and it wouldn't be worth it for me. I would be too old to enjoy a marriage by that time. And with marrying that late in life, there's no telling how long it will last. And I'm also set in my ways. Could you imagine how much more set in my ways I'll be after another 21 years of singleness? If I haven't done anything worthy by the time I'm 50, then I need to work on getting something done so that I'll be able to hear "Well done" when that day comes. And that will likely have to involve a commitment to singleness. So if I'm still single on August 28, 2027, I'll know I'm called to be single.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/20/2006 1:02:39 PM
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A-Tech - what's the big deal with 50? Trust me, as you get closer to it, you'll realize it's only a number, and there's absolutely NO reason why you couldn't get married and have a very fulfilling marriage and life at that point. I'm 45, never been married, and now I finally feel like I'm ready to settle down, it's still going to be a few years before this happens. If in your line of thinking, this doesn't happen by my 50th birthday, then I should throw away a great man, just because we're not married yet? I don't think so! Don't let a number derail you. You've got a LONG time before you're there - just be open to what the Lord has for you now.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/20/2006 2:06:52 PM
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Woohoo, a 30 something thread..
I saw that 40 something one awhile back and I didn't dare go into that crusty old thread, hehe, just kidding.
Hmm, since I really don't need encouragement now.. I'll just tell you something agapemami..
1) I love being 30, I found Christ when I was 6, and never have had problems with getting older. Other people have more a problem with it than I do, ehhe.
2) I've never lost nor gained interesting in having children. I believe I will have children based on a verse God led me to, but I will say that I could live with or without them. My wife and I marry to bring glory to God and to enjoy each other's company... not for the children. Children come in third place.
3) I've come to a place in the past couple of years of actually being able to accept a non-virgin woman, even if she has children. I've learned to get over this by a female friend who by virtue of who she is, got me to see how it's just the beauty of that person that matters, not thier kids, not thier virginity. (I had a hard heart towards women who were not "perfect" in my eyes for awhile because I was hurting from a broken engagement, among other things)
4) I DO feel that there's someone for me. It's the one that I say, "I do" to. I have a choice among many, many women out there.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/20/2006 2:15:26 PM
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Sc1t0r
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I'm 37, never been on a date, let alone had a relationship. I really want to be married though. I used to think that God wanted me single, but I think it was more that fact that I had issues with men and was denying it. Can't have kids and I don't fit the criteria for adoption, but that's ok. Like agapemami, I don't feel like there's anybody out there for me, but God can feel free to prove me wrong on that one.
It'd good to hear people admit why they pushed things off. I had to get my heart broken, and now, to keep it that way for me to realize that I was pushing women off.
I will tell you, I have thought that if I met a woman who could not have kids would it bother me? Nope! Like I just posted, I don't get married for the kids, but to bring glory to God and to enjoy my life with her. Be encouraged that there's at least one guy who doesn't care about the kids issue.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/20/2006 2:16:53 PM
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Hi I'm Katie-Scarlet and I'm 38 and still single.
{everyone say together " Hi Katie}
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haha! Not going to bother after 50, thats really funny!
It was a thought I came up with a while back. I decided that if I was still single at age 50, I would commit what remains of my life to singleness. Then do mission work after I retire. I'm under the conviction that God put this idea in my head. In my opinion, after 50 is too late to start a first marriage and it wouldn't be worth it for me. I would be too old to enjoy a marriage by that time. And with marrying that late in life, there's no telling how long it will last. And I'm also set in my ways. Could you imagine how much more set in my ways I'll be after another 21 years of singleness? If I haven't done anything worthy by the time I'm 50, then I need to work on getting something done so that I'll be able to hear "Well done" when that day comes. And that will likely have to involve a commitment to singleness. So if I'm still single on August 28, 2027, I'll know I'm called to be single.
I use to think that way too. Not anymore, I'll take love whenever I can get it and just pray for the relationship Sarah and Abraham had. They were practicing her getting pregnant long past the time you would think it possible.
Plus as you get older those numbers don't mean the same thing to you. I thought 40 was going to be old when I was 30 now that Iv'e got the key in the door getting ready to open it to 40 I realize its all about how you feel not the number given to you. I still feel like I'm in my mid 20's. I'm still very healthy and fortunately still look like I'm in my late 20 early 30's.
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RE: 30 Something & Single -Encouragement Thread - 8/20/2006 2:27:51 PM
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ORIGINAL: jungleskippertina
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ORIGINAL: jungleskippertina
[Slowly walking hesitantly into the room]
Um, hello everyone, I would just like to announce that as of Wednesday, I will be officially eligible to join this thread.
Hmm.30. Thirty. Thiiiiirrrteee.
Yep, still in denial
Welcome!....well, enjoy your last few days of being 29! You are still in your 20s!
Thanks! Perhaps I should go do something crazy...like TP someone's house or something. hahaha Who in their right mind in their 30s do such a thing?
I'd love to do it with you, I never haver TP'd a house, it'd rock!
You've never TPed a house? It's so much fun! Then again, you're talking to the TP/saran wrap/fork/etc. queen. I am quite skilled and can show you a resume or give references. hehe. Come on over and I'll train you!
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