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Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/20/2008 10:36:10 AM
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BER243357
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Howdy, Ladies...
I reckon I've got a few questions and I'd be happy to hear some ladies' opinions. Please, feel free to run wild with yer answers, seein' as how it's the heart of women I'm a-lookin' to figure out.
What kind of man makes you get all twitterpated? (for "twitterpated" reference, see Bambi)
What does yer heart yearn for in a man....or rather, what can yer ideal man provide for you that'd make you swoon? (we're not talkin' physically here, ladies)
I tip my hat to you in appreciation for your responses in advance. I'll try to thank each one of you individually as best I can, but the internet doesn't work so well here in Iraq.
Jeff Jeffers, USMC
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/20/2008 10:49:07 AM
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jesuschick247
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First of all, love the accent, too funny!
Let's see what gets me all twitterpatted?
When the guy compliments me and is sincere about it. When I meet a guy who is passionate about his relationship about God, that really catches my attention and makes me want to learn more about him. A guy with a great smile always makes me notice him, and if he has eyes that sparkle from the joy that he has in his heart. I guess really, a good Christian guy makes me get all twitterpatted!
I just yearn for someone who loves Jesus Christ in his life #1 and then me and then the rest of the world and himself last. I want someone who is selfless and only wants the best for me, even if it means having to sacrifice some of himself. I just want a good, loving, and strong man who loves me with all of his heart, who knows how to treat me right.
In return, I want to be the one who knows all about him and still loves him. If he gives me all of his heart, then I will give him all of mine.
I hope this kind of helps and isn't too rambling!
Blessings,
Chick
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/20/2008 2:09:50 PM
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I like a guy who is honest and upright, emotionally and spiritually mature, generous in nature, wise, sober, has a good sense of humor, humble, hard-working and takes care of his responsibilities, faithful, and who treats others with the utmost respect.
That just sweeps me right off my well-planted feet!
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/20/2008 2:15:57 PM
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BER243357
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Thank you, kindly, Chick for your candid response. I pray that you'll find your prince one day...and, no, you weren't ramblin'. That's right what I was lookin' to hear from all you ladies. You've served as a mighty fine example to follow.
God bless you, Darlin'
Jeff
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/20/2008 2:36:19 PM
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jesuschick247
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Thank you, kindly, Chick for your candid response. I pray that you'll find your prince one day...and, no, you weren't ramblin'. That's right what I was lookin' to hear from all you ladies. You've served as a mighty fine example to follow.
God bless you, Darlin'
Jeff
You are so welcome! Candid is my middle name...LOL!
Glad you didn't think I was ramblin', I have a tendency to do that!
Glad we could be of help to ya!
Blessings,
Chick
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/20/2008 5:41:52 PM
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I think most women would say they'd like a man of character--ya know, honesty, integrity, worthy of being respected, after God's heart. That's almost a given. I also look for someone who's very active, adventurous, loves the outdoors, loves to travel, has a heart of compassion for the unfortunate, and extremely romantic, and someone who has good leadership abilities. My knight in shining armour is someone I connect with emotionally, physically, spiritually, and mentally.
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/21/2008 5:36:24 PM
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I can't say that I'm longing for some mythical knight or for someone to stir up temporary emotions. What I'm looking for is a real man who has values, character, a strong sense of self, and who is also self-aware enough to share his vulnerabilities. He will love me for who I am, not for who he thinks a woman "should" be. This man will be able to get my attention by noticing me and not being afraid to approach and pursue me.
I could give a long list of things that I'm looking for, but y'know, God has His own list, and he's surprised me, so I'm keeping my list to myself. Besides, I have met someone who fit my list EXACTLY, but there was just no chemistry. I do want someone who's good natured and has a natural concern for others. Someone romantic and maybe even a little protective, but who values a little separateness in the relationship, meaning we both need a little "space" from time to time.
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/22/2008 1:31:11 AM
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I could go on and on and give a long list of things but these few words from Grace encapsulates it for me:
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Someone romantic and maybe even a little protective
The only thing I have to add is that he should also be considerate and honest.
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/22/2008 9:10:40 AM
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What does yer heart yearn for in a man....or rather, what can yer ideal man provide for you that'd make you swoon?
One who sincerely loves the Lord, knows he isn't perfect, and is down to earth. One who has a gentle, romantic heart (I'm not saying gifts, candles, and or mushiness) - one who can surprise me with the little things like doing a chore for me, rubbing my shoulder when I mention it's sore, renting my favorite kind of movie to watch with me (even when he hates it, haha), etc. One who has a good relationship with his family (and pets) and enjoys being with them - it's definitely a quality I looked for when I was dating! One who has a variety of good friends. One who can lead or has good leadership ability, but isn't overpowering, and gets along well with other people (an easy-going, inviting personality). ... I'm sure there's so much more!! As for other non-important, but helpful qualities (that I looked for) was a man who could cook and didn't mind cleaning! I also thought a man who can play the piano was romantic - there's just something softer, more old-fashioned about the piano! Actually, any kind of creative/artistic outlet was a plus in my book. 
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/22/2008 12:23:30 PM
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What kind of man makes you get all twitterpated? (for "twitterpated" reference, see Bambi) Also . . . Jeff, just because a man can make me twitterpated does not mean he is the man for me.
Sometimes a guy's looks can do that to me . . . but dig a little deeper, and there's really not much else that I would find appealing (I am talking about specific guys; not all good looking guys, in general).
I have a concern about today's society (in general) romanticizing relationships.
Romance is just but one part of a healthy solid relationship; and in reality, often, it's not even the biggest part.
There are teens and young adults (and sometimes even older adults) who are believing and/or hoping for the fairy-tale relationship with someone. Fairy-tale relationships only happen in, well, fairy-tales. And when they don't happen in "real life" people get hurt, disappointed and even disillusioned. It's not healthy. I think it's also a big part as to why so many people don't have the first clue about what a real relationship really involves (that was not directed at anyone specific; just a general observation of some people I know both online and offline).
On a different note - THANK YOU very much for serving our country!  
Blessings,
Sharon-Marie
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/22/2008 2:34:07 PM
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:: my power finally came back on; the whole town lost power about 2 hours ago ::
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Thank you, Shar-Mar!! But by "looking" I simply mean that I'm waiting for him and watching the character of him when he arrives, not that I'm searching.
Oh, ok. Thanks for clarifying!
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/23/2008 12:04:07 AM
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Zhi
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Ironically, my husband really DOES sweep in on a white charger and save me on occasion. It's one of the great parts of MMORPGs. ;)
I think that the "knight in shining armor" thing does have some good points as a symbol. I mean, the image stands for chivalry... for highly valuing women, for protecting and providing for them (not that they would necessarily NEED it, but that he would be willing...), for acting with honor in all things, for standing for Christian beliefs and ideals, for strength without brutishness. There's nothing wrong with that that I know of, those are qualities that I cherish in my own husband.
Of course similar interests, an excellent sense of humor, being great with kids (especially now that we've finally gotten around to having a couple of our own), and the ability to keep up with each other intellectually also helps greatly. ;)
And, in the real world, whether or not a guy is a knight in shining armor is not quite so simple as checking the outfit as he sweeps you onto his white charger. But, that doesn't mean we can't keep an eye out for the qualities. ;) Well, I mean, you single women can anyway. ;)
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/23/2008 9:17:20 AM
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WhiteRoseBlessings
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Zhi, what does MMORPG stand for?
You made some very good points; none of which I will argue.
AND, none of which falls under what I meant when I said people tend to romanticize relationships.
For instance . . . you . . . is your life absolutely filled with romance? I would imagine that it is not. I'm guessing your life is a conglomerate of things; romance being one of them, yes; but not the prevailing ever-present factor. And that's actually how things should be. You are a married woman and a mother - there are many facets to your life and within your relationship with your husband. 
There are some people, though, who are under the impression that being in a relationship will mean 24/7 romance - or close to it. I've talked with them; from both here in the threads and also in my offline life. When I try to tell them differently, they look at me as if I have 3 eyes and say something along the lines of, "Well, it will be different with me." (not always a direct quote; sometimes, they say a paraphrase of that).
It's those people that I am talking about and talking to.
It's those people who I hope will read my posts and really take it to heart.
If they choose to go on believing that (a) a romance can "save" them from whatever it is they are wanting to be rescued from and (b) a relationship will always be, first and foremost, romantic . . . then they are in for a lot of unnecessary hurt in their lives.
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/23/2008 8:50:26 PM
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Zhi
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MMORPG = massively multiplayer online roleplaying game.
I certainly don't disagree with you on your observations regarding fairy tales. I just wanted to make a few observations on what "knight in shining armor" implies that is good. ;)
It's interesting that fairy tales always end with the wedding, right? And they all lived happily ever after. Until apparently the wife has a kid and dies off, because otherwise there would be no room to bring in the massive numbers of evil stepmothers. Right?
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/24/2008 3:49:06 PM
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He looks like my husband but sorry ladies, he's taken!
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/24/2008 6:57:41 PM
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What does a knight in shining armor look like?
He goes out and fills his wife's car with gas at 5:54am so she don't have to rush around so much before she leave for school
He rocks a sick baby and sings to her all night just because she wants her daddy
He plays dollhouse and barbies half the day just to have some playtime with his girls.
He calls his wife's cell phone and leaves sweet messages and silly songs when she's in class just to make her smile.
He drives an hour away to rescue his wife because she locked her keys in the car(again) and instead of being upset, he shows up with a smile and some nonsense about it being a good excuse to see her.
He makes a fresh pot of coffee(or a run to Starbucks) when it's crunch time for schoolwork all without being asked even though he doesn't drink "the stuff"
He spends daily time in God's word and prayer, and follows after God with all his heart.
Oh wait...that's my husband 
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/24/2008 7:05:34 PM
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LOL! Nope...sorry!
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/25/2008 10:14:49 AM
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momndaboyz
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check out the marriage forums - "What has your husband done to make you melt lately" - there's some knights in there for sure!
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RE: Knight in shining armor...what's THAT look like? - 11/25/2008 4:35:02 PM
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Knight in shining armor, huh?
Well, of course he should be honest, trusting, trustworthy, intelligent, hardworking, sincere, godly, loyal, affectionate, thoughtful, considerate, supportive, something between a boy scout and a well-trained dog.
What got my attention when I first met my was his ability to share who he was without fear of not being liked. He has such a confidence and security in who he is that is so sexy. He's not arrogant in any way but confident. He was able to love and care for someone like he'd never been hurt before. Which considering his overly abusive ex-wife is AMAZING! He is also very positive and encouraging. He gives me the courage to believe in myself even when I don't feel like it. He's also an excellent communicator and never ceases to remind me that he loves me.
Needless to say, I am truly blessed!
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