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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/13/2008 11:30:34 PM
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funny_girl
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I hate this aspect of American culture! Why do we let our kids grow up so fast???? Here in Mexico, the kids aren't even thinking about moving out. It just wouldn't be economical. Many of our friends are 23-25+, single and living happily at home with their families. They also work and help with the finances. Since my kids have had their teen years here, 4+ years, I encourage them to be Latin, but I'm not sure it's working. My oldest is now in YWAM and says that he's feeling really independent and loves it there. He says that he's feeling closer to God than ever in his life. He also informed us that he's probably going to go to a YWAM based program after dts, that will be based in the US. Who knows! I'm just happy he's happy. I'm not really sure what my youngest wants to do but he's been helping me with the baby. I let him drive my car alone today for the first time. He's 17 and only has a drivers permit from the states but he only went a block and half away. He didn't want it to rain on him walking.
Happy 16th birthday mom! Hope you enjoy him!
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/14/2008 1:08:59 AM
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Roberta_
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I understand about time going so quickly!! My youngest is 15 and a half.
It seems like just yesterday the dr. was putting my almost 23 year old son in my arms for the first time.
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/14/2008 2:25:55 AM
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YWAM
What's YWAM?
Ah, I think I just guessed it. Youth with a mission?
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/14/2008 11:18:03 AM
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Leslie_JnJs_mom
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He was suppose to take his driving test on Wednesday but he has made some very irresponsible decisions lately that have us wondering if he really understands the importance of driving safely. I let him drive when there were some of his friends were in the car too. He was so caught up in showing off that he drove right over the curb. He made several other silly mistakes that he never makes. He was just to caught up in showing off. So what is he going to do if he is driving all by himself and he comes across a group of his friends. I can see him hurting someone or worse just so he can show off. Now his dad is making him prove he is responsible enough to drive well even when his peers see him before he can get his licence. So far it is not promising, leaving the house without telling anyone is not the way to do it.
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/14/2008 11:44:09 AM
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faroukfarouk
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L'smom:
I know what you mean, and the insurance companies do also. Unfortunately at that age many young ppl don't know really know the meaning of danger. In some countries the minimum age for driving is 17 and in others 18; I guess there is some sense to that.
On the other hand there is also the "oh, my friends are also learning to drive" thing.
So what you're experiencing isn't unusual. The main thing is the prayer and Bible reading habit thing, and the developing the respect for others thing, including on the road.
Hope his test on Wed. goes okay, anyway.
Some of the stuff that teens like to do, hair color, jewelry, whatever, is not much of a big deal, I guess. It's the big things that really count, right?
Take care.
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He was suppose to take his driving test on Wednesday but he has made some very irresponsible decisions lately that have us wondering if he really understands the importance of driving safely. I let him drive when there were some of his friends were in the car too. He was so caught up in showing off that he drove right over the curb. He made several other silly mistakes that he never makes. He was just to caught up in showing off. So what is he going to do if he is driving all by himself and he comes across a group of his friends. I can see him hurting someone or worse just so he can show off. Now his dad is making him prove he is responsible enough to drive well even when his peers see him before he can get his licence. So far it is not promising, leaving the house without telling anyone is not the way to do it.
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/14/2008 7:09:29 PM
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He was suppose to take his driving test on Wednesday but he has made some very irresponsible decisions lately that have us wondering if he really understands the importance of driving safely. I let him drive when there were some of his friends were in the car too. He was so caught up in showing off that he drove right over the curb. He made several other silly mistakes that he never makes. He was just to caught up in showing off. So what is he going to do if he is driving all by himself and he comes across a group of his friends. I can see him hurting someone or worse just so he can show off. Now his dad is making him prove he is responsible enough to drive well even when his peers see him before he can get his licence. So far it is not promising, leaving the house without telling anyone is not the way to do it.
Just to encourage you...you're doing the right thing by making him wait until he has proven responsible. We have had lots and lots of teens in this area die while driving with their friends in the car. You will not regret making him wait, but I bet those parents regret letting them go ahead, KWIM?
We'll have some very strict rules when our kids start driving, and 16 is not the magic get your license age in this house. It's too huge of a responsibility to give it to a kid who isn't ready for it.
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/14/2008 8:23:27 PM
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faroukfarouk
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My wife was driving at 16; she has always been a sensible sort of person.
I read in a National Geographic Magazine of about 40 years ago that in the US a 14 year old could legally drive from one coast of to the other, and ppl wanted to stop it. That's far too young.
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/17/2008 12:24:53 PM
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Now his dad is making him prove he is responsible enough to drive well even when his peers see him before he can get his licence.
Here, when a kid gets their permit at 16, they are only allowed to drive if they have a licensed driver (someone who has had their license for 4 years) with them. When I was 16, I thought it was the dumbest rule. Now that I'm a parent, I am so thankful for it (even though we're 14 years away from this issue!)
While I think a kid can learn to drive at 16, not all are responsible enough to be on their own doing so.
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/17/2008 6:35:06 PM
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faroukfarouk
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I talk to my wife about the 'bucking bronco' drivers on our highway.
A bit of maturity should do a lot to tame them...
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/17/2008 6:36:16 PM
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faroukfarouk
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Leslie_JnJs_mom:
So how did his driving test go Wednesday?
Take care.
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/18/2008 5:59:10 PM
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I was once 16.
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/19/2008 9:32:20 AM
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lexie
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You're going to do his laundry after he moves out?
I'm 27 with a husband and child and I still do my laundry at my mom's house! I do it myself actually, but have been known to leave a load in the dryer and come back to find it all neatly folded!
In some things, we just don't grow up!
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/19/2008 3:52:51 PM
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PrincessDonna
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There's a difference between doing your laundry at your mom's house and having your mom do your laundry.  And if she folded it...it was because she wanted to, not because you expected her to.
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/19/2008 7:55:40 PM
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Ellie-Mae
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My mom does my laundry at my house. 
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/19/2008 8:29:21 PM
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Ellie-Mae
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I don't look forward to it either.
I would be happy to let my child do their laundry at our house, and to eat at our dinner table every night (they would have chip in though). I like the Mexican thing though about having them live with your until they are really ready to fly the coup.
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RE: I am now a mom of a 16 year old - 7/21/2008 2:51:49 PM
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Leslie_JnJs_mom
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No I wont do his laundry, it is just a little joke we pass around since he saw that on the Cosby Show. The kids came home with dirty laundry hoping mom will wash it. I do not wash his clothes now unless he is sick and running out of clean clothes.
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