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Help - 9/16/2008 2:02:51 PM
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Hello I'm new here.... - I NEED HELP.... I am saved and please when you read all that I have to type please know that I really need ur help. I am a saved single young lady - everything was going right in my life I was where I needed to be (so I thought) and I was grow in God. I was dating a young man a while back and we parted ways... we both belong to the same church... as time went on we found ourselves back to "dating" to make a long story short I am not 4months pregnant, In the past I did terminate a pregnancy (no he wasn’t the father) and I made I vow to myself that I would never to that again the guilt and everything that came along with it still effects me 10years later. Needless to say this person knows of the vow I made and wants me to terminate the pregnancy because it’s not the time for a child we’re not married etc. I feel like my back is up against the wall… one week he’s excited and the next it’s I can’t believe you are forcing me to be a father now and I’m not ready, I can’t believe you are trying to mess up my life. Is all that he says to me now along with if you have this baby I will HATE YOU… I have accept the fact that me having sex outside of being married was wrong and since have being working on getting back to where I need to be in Christ. I said to him that even in our sin God has blessed us with life… his response to me was this has nothing to do with God this has to do with me and you… HUH… God has to do with everything he’s the reason WHY I AM…. Then he went out to say I should terminate the pregnancy and do this the right way the way God intended it to be. Oh and let me not forget this part… I love you so much and I want to marry you but I’m not ready for a baby right now we don’t need this we have so much in life we need to complete (I’m 35 years old). Next year we can have a baby, and this is the famous one…. I told him if I was to terminate this pregnancy because you want me to I will never forgive you and have nothing but regrets and so on and so forth… so after all his abusive talk he says to me… will you leave me??? Can we stay together????...I’m to the point that I don’t want to deal with his abusive way of talking to me I don’t want to deal with this anymore and now I want to terminate the pregnancy not to be with him but so I don’t have to deal with him…I CAN’T DO THIS ANYMORE… I’m all out my strength is gone.
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RE: Help - 9/16/2008 2:24:39 PM
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MrsTracy72
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Why would you terminate a pregnancy because of what he says to you? If you are going to leave him, then what difference does it make. You can keep the baby and deal with the financial issues in court if need be, or you may consider adoption. If you are that convicted that abortion is wrong, then why would you even consider it. I know people who have had abortions, and you yourself said you have already so you know the emotional and physical harm they cause.
My husband put his son up for adoption at birth. Now we are able to get together and spend time with him and his adoptive family. Everybody won in that situation.
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RE: Help - 9/16/2008 3:05:46 PM
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purejoy
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I agree with Mrs. Tracy. It sounds like you have been convicted that abortion is wrong and regret what happened in the past. Do not let someone push you into something that you know is not right.
I also disagree with him that this has nothing to do with God. You are right, as a Christian, your life and everything in it has everything to do with God. Keeping seeking hard after the Lord. Be strong in what you believe. Is there a counselor or someone at church that might be able to talk things through with you and give you another perspective?
Praying for you.
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RE: Help - 9/16/2008 4:00:32 PM
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LaurainAL
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First of all, you should seek guidance from God on the issue.
And, I believe you already know the answer He will give you. It is never ok to terminate life.
It's going to be ok. There are quite a few people on this board who have given birth out of wedlock. Although the circumstances surrounding the conception of the baby are sinful, the baby itself is not.
God loves you and God loves the child you are carrying. We will be here to support you through this.
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RE: Help - 9/16/2008 4:00:48 PM
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