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He Wants A Divorce - 7/17/2008 3:56:07 PM
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nyst8ofmind
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My DH left the home for "the other woman" back in February 2006. That relationship was short lived but he stayed "out there" til July 2007 at which time he returned saying that the Lord told him his destiny was with me ... he needed to go back home. From that time til present, he's maintained contact w/the women he met and has even established new relationships. When he returned all I asked was that he change his cell phone number and cut off ALL communication with other women - no calls, emails or text messages. He refused, stating all I needed to be concerned about was meeting his needs (physical) and all the other stuff would stop. I was not in agreement with him being at home with me, with one foot still in the world. Needless to say the reconciliation hasn't been successful.
Long story short, he has decided that I don't meet his physical needs and he wants a divorce. I'm overwhelmed with the unknown of being single again at 44, in our present economy. Struggling with fear - how will I pay all the bills, what if I get laid off, etc. Fear of being alone - can't imagine why God would allow me to be alone ... I'm not the one who wants the divorce. But I've heard/read countless testimonies of people who've been divorced and remain single 5, 10 or 15 years. Fear of not having someone there to protect me.
Assuming all the finances pertaining to the house will be new territory for me, so I truly needs God's hand to provide employment and His wisdom to know how to handle/distribute the money that comes in. I don't believe it is His will that I lose my home and I'm willing to budget, cut back on food, etc. Lastly, I need prayer that I'd heal emotionally ... I don't want to be bitter or angry.
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RE: He Wants A Divorce - 7/17/2008 4:17:37 PM
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BJinWA
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wow, you have put up with so much for so long. i am sorry you have had to go through all of that.
i have been divorced 14 years. believe me, i do just fine.
may i recommend crown.org and the dave ramsey books as aids in developing a budget.
i do want to encourage you to proactively take care of yourself, both financially, physically and emotionally. get legal help, seek counseling if you can and most of all take time to heal.
i will be praying for you.
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RE: He Wants A Divorce - 7/17/2008 7:48:09 PM
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love4theLord
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Lord, you know this situation here, please step in and take over here. Please protect all who are involved, and whatever is best for nyst8ofmind, please just put here there and guide and direct her whereever you want her to be and whatever you want her to do, please just show her. Give her strength, wisdom and comfort during this time, to continue to lean on you Lord and just to leave this in your hands. Please soften her husbands heart and let him see the light, let him see what he is doing and just come back to you Lord and if you want this marriage reconciled Lord please do it. Bring these 2 back together, and we know this is all according to your time and your will Lord if this is what you want here Lord...
amen
kc
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RE: He Wants A Divorce - 7/18/2008 12:33:11 AM
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OneJohn410
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Father God,
In Your love for us, You sent Your only Son Jesus, to teach us how we should live, and to take on all punishment of all of us so that we might live one day forever with You. You then shared with us Your Holy Spirit when You Son returned to You, that we could still commune with You in this age. God, stir in NY's heart the remembrance that she has an ongoing Savior that still desires her to be with Him, no matter what comes her way in the future. I pray in agreement with those before me, that she cast her cares on You and seek and find godly and true advice through this season of sorrow and hurt.
In Jesus' precious name,
Amen
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RE: He Wants A Divorce - 7/18/2008 4:58:04 AM
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conrack50
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Father God,
In Your love for us, You sent Your only Son Jesus, to teach us how we should live, and to take on all punishment of all of us so that we might live one day forever with You. You then shared with us Your Holy Spirit when You Son returned to You, that we could still commune with You in this age. God, stir in NY's heart the remembrance that she has an ongoing Savior that still desires her to be with Him, no matter what comes her way in the future. I pray in agreement with those before me, that she cast her cares on You and seek and find godly and true advice through this season of sorrow and hurt.
In Jesus' precious name,
Amen
I am praying in agreement, amen
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RE: He Wants A Divorce - 7/18/2008 12:29:21 PM
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kyl
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Father God,
In Your love for us, You sent Your only Son Jesus, to teach us how we should live, and to take on all punishment of all of us so that we might live one day forever with You. You then shared with us Your Holy Spirit when You Son returned to You, that we could still commune with You in this age. God, stir in NY's heart the remembrance that she has an ongoing Savior that still desires her to be with Him, no matter what comes her way in the future. I pray in agreement with those before me, that she cast her cares on You and seek and find godly and true advice through this season of sorrow and hurt.
In Jesus' precious name,
Amen
Praying in agreement
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RE: He Wants A Divorce - 7/18/2008 12:48:55 PM
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TorchHeart
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Lord, you know this situation here, please step in and take over here. Please protect all who are involved, and whatever is best for nyst8ofmind, please just put here there and guide and direct her whereever you want her to be and whatever you want her to do, please just show her. Give her strength, wisdom and comfort during this time, to continue to lean on you Lord and just to leave this in your hands. Please soften her husbands heart and let him see the light, let him see what he is doing and just come back to you Lord and if you want this marriage reconciled Lord please do it. Bring these 2 back together, and we know this is all according to your time and your will Lord if this is what you want here Lord...
amen
kc
Also praying in agreement
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RE: He Wants A Divorce - 7/18/2008 2:01:59 PM
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peaceofGod
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Father,
Thank you that we can come to you. Please work in this situation and do what you know to be best. I ask it in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
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RE: He Wants A Divorce - 7/18/2008 9:58:19 PM
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love4theLord
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Continuing to pray for you and your family..
kc
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RE: He Wants A Divorce - 7/20/2008 5:11:55 PM
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nyst8ofmind
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Thank you all for your prayer support. I will be moving this weekend from the marital property - he's gladly helping me move. And we will sign the divorce papers at that time.
To say that I'm "anxious" at the thought of my new reality - single at 44 - is an understatement. I imagined growing old w/DH but it is what it is. Add to that I have no family (other than him) in the city where we live, so I am alone and must now ask God for new family/friends. I must also learn to take care of myself now (car issues, etc.) and lean COMPLETELY on Him to provide and protect me. But the Word says "this too shall pass" right?!? So, I move with into, toward my new beginning.
Showers of Blessings!
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RE: He Wants A Divorce - 7/20/2008 7:01:18 PM
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love4theLord
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I am still praying for you nyst8ofmind..
I pray that you have a smooth move and get settle in wherever you make your new home. You will always have our love and support here! Like you said, you will completely lean on the Lord through all of this and he will take care of you from now on! He will never leave you or let you down!! Praise God!!
I am praying for you!!
kc
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RE: He Wants A Divorce - 7/20/2008 9:13:18 PM
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JMCrwd
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will keep you in my prayers.
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