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Divorce after infidelity - 9/8/2008 10:36:32 PM
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saving-grace
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I need some help with this one. I have a friend (a prayer partner) who is in a marriage right now whose husband has been unfaithful and is still having an affair. They have been married for quite a long time. Here is where the issue is. She is a very godly woman seeking God for His guidance on which way to go with her life. The husband has made no efforts to reconcile or to end the adultery that he is committing. She wants to know if God wants her to end this marriage or whether she should hold on. How long should she hold on? Mind you, she has been holding on for a long time now. We are praying for His direction in this matter.
Any assistance, scriptures, counselors with tips. Please I would greatly appreciate it. 
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RE: Divorce after infidelity - 9/8/2008 11:30:29 PM
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PaleHawkWoman
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She should certainly be in prayer, but she should also start moving to protect herself financially by setting up her own bank accounts, drafting a living will to name someone other than her husband to make medical decisions for her and to protect her assets. Any assets she had prior to the marriage need to secured. She also needs to document the incidents involving the infidelity and how her husbandis treating her(emotional estrangement and abuse/adultery). All joint assets need to be listed and she may need to file for legal separation to keep him from hiding those or transfering them to other persons.
I think she should get my financial/property/legal matters in order then give hubby an ultimatum- quit the affair or get out of the house now.
Personally, I would drain all of the bank accounts and empty out the safety deposit boxes as well as any safes in the home, and set up my own accounts, and store all valuables in a safe place. I would also change all of the locks, put his stuff out on the lawn, and wish him good luck as I hand him my attorney's card. And I would sue him for all of the alimony and child support I could get, as well as all of my attorney's fees.
If the other woman wants the cheating swine, let her have him. He will end up doing her like that too.
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RE: Divorce after infidelity - 9/9/2008 9:12:31 AM
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It is hard to watch someone you care about go through something like this. She will have to decide with God when and if the time is right to make a stand to separate. In the meantime, I agree that she should start to take care of financial independance, as much as possible.
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RE: Divorce after infidelity - 9/9/2008 9:14:52 AM
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