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Deprived of sex - 8/20/2008 3:55:24 PM   
Shay5218

 

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Me and my husband have a wonderful relationship in christ , our family of four is wonderful , no complaints , I thank God for it . My husband and I both have busy schedules and I work nights and he works days I have a lot on my plate dealing with the 2 and 4 year olds once I wake from the morning nap . My husband is gone for the daytime drama . But he manages to make time for sex once a week at his convience , this has been going on for 8 years we have been married 12 years and I always try to let him know in a nice way that I need it more sex .

Sometimes we only have it twice a month and he seems ok and then he may get a quicky from me on the way to work right before I leave , I am always game because I am desperate. I have no problems with the quickies but if I do that to him all choas breaks out . My husband does not like his schedule to be interrupted from me or the children or he becomes in a rage of anger . So I don't ask anymore to have sex when I want , I will just wait until he is ready , this has grown old.

I am 39 years old and recently my sex drive has increased tremendausoly and I am ready at all times . I explained this to my husband and suggested that maybe three times a week would take care of the issue , he told me to seek help for my frustration from a counseler or something , he also advised me to purchase items that could help me during the week so it would not disrupt his schedule . He said to me can't we just have sex on th weekend saturday , I explained to him that I was not satisfied with that and I want to feel like I can come to him for sex at my request too without you getting angry at me .

Right now I am overwhelmed with passion and I am weak , I don't want to use porn or any other means to get satisfied , I am supposed to be able to go to my husband for my needs to be met I am at the end of my rope and it is even hard to read the bible or concentrate on anything because sex is on my mind all day and night . If anyone can give me some advice it would be a blessing to me .
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RE: Deprived of sex - 8/20/2008 4:49:07 PM   
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Hi there Shay.

You said you have a wonderful relationship in Christ...but may I ask you something? Do you think a wonderful relationship means being intimately fulfilled by one another? Does a wonderful relationship mean that we shouldn't deprive of one another unless we are unable to have sex (physical limitation, etc...).

I personally think your husband feels that THE most important role for him as a husband is to be a good provider. But being a provider is not just financial. You both provide to each other in many ways...spiritually, emotionally and physically. The very fact he is telling you to use toys to satisfy your sexual need is disturbing to me because he is telling you to use those things as a replacement...not as an enhancement to you intimate life. It's couple's counseling you need not just you. You are very vulnerable. A high sex drive can cause you to look elsewhere because he is not fulfilling his duty in that manner. So I would nicely, but firmly request that he join you in counseling if that's the route you want to take. Be serious about it to him without sounding too harsh. Your busy schedule is making you want more intimacy. His busy schedule is making him want less.

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RE: Deprived of sex - 8/20/2008 5:04:15 PM   
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Because this board is open to teenagers we do not allow topics of a sexual nature.

You may go to Themarriagebed.com for help on this issue.

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