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Could he be very shy? - 9/9/2008 12:32:55 PM
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wink1
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There's a guy that I've been interested in for about 2 years now. I was told by a friend that he was interested in me, so I asked him if he was, and told him that I like him too. After I did that, he started ignoring me.
I didn't want us to be uncomfortable around each other. So, I told him that I was sorry, and that I only asked him because I thought he was interested in me. We're friends again now. But, I wonder what he's thinking. Everytime he sees me, he makes it a point to get my attention.
One night, we were at choir rehearsal and someone said something to make me laugh. He looked back at me and winked his eye. Well, after what happened the first time, I figured maybe he just does things like that.
And, doesn't mean anything by it. I didn't want to get the wrong impression again. So, I didn't pay it much attention. After service was over, I saw him walking to the door. I decided to wave at him to see what he'd do. He stopped and waved back at me. I believe he would've talked to me, if I had of started a conversation.
Anyways, the next thing that happened is I was at a wedding reception, waiting to congratulate the blessed couple. I had waited about 45 minutes and didn't see them, so I went to my car. When I got outside, I saw that he had parked his car next to mine. Again, I didn't want to make anything out of it. So, I said well maybe he couldn't find anywhere else to park. (Eventhough there was). The next night we had a fellowship service at another church. I waited around to see if he wanted to talk to me. But, he seemed kind of busy. So, I started walking to my car. I decided to look around and see where he parked, so I could see him when he left. When I got to my car, I saw that he had parked right in front of me.
Now, I'm a little slow about the boy and girl thing. But, I don't think that was a coincidence. Do you think he maybe trying to give me hints that he likes me?
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RE: Could he be very shy? - 9/9/2008 1:16:54 PM
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Could be he is interested and wants to approach you on his own time and he could be shy. You took the aggressive role when you asked right out based on what your friend told you...Leave it alone...allow God to work in this...Just be yourself...
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RE: Could he be very shy? - 9/9/2008 1:20:29 PM
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jesuschick247
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ORIGINAL: preserved
Could be he is interested and wants to approach you on his own time and he could be shy. You took the aggressive role when you asked right out based on what your friend told you...Leave it alone...allow God to work in this...Just be yourself...
I totally agree! I have had the same problem the past few weeks,(Only I am never the aggresive one, because I am shy!) and I can tell you letting God be in control really is best!
Keep praying and see where God is leading you! I will keep you in my prayers!
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RE: Could he be very shy? - 9/9/2008 1:31:59 PM
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Don't read anything into anything until he asks you out on a date or tells you directly that he is interested in pursuing a relationship with you.
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RE: Could he be very shy? - 9/10/2008 1:56:29 PM
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raivyne
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Many men like to be the pursuer and I won't date a man I would have to chase. Just go with the flow and see what happens. Maybe he's trying to get to know you better so that he can decide whether or not to ask you out.
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RE: Could he be very shy? - 9/10/2008 2:16:19 PM
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Auben
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What Laura said.
There's a fine line in interest and enjoyment in a friend and interest and enjoyment as a potential suitor.
Enjoy his friendship. If he changes his mind he'll let you know. You've already been very plain with him so the ball is in his court. There's no need to do anything else unless he acts.
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RE: Could he be very shy? - 9/11/2008 3:28:26 PM
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deermousie
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Either he's just a friendly but quiet person and means nothing by it, or maybe he's so shy that if he ever married (maybe take 10 years for the woman to finally ask him, and then she has to take the man's part because he's too shy their whole marriage). Or something else; I don't know what. Lazy? Introverted? Scared?
If you are thinking you'd like to marry, I'd pass this one up. But that could just be me.
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RE: Could he be very shy? - 9/12/2008 9:38:05 AM
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bereanman_7
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I find myself in a situation that when I read this post reminded me of mine, now I can't say for sure this is what is happening with the man you seem to be interested in is the same but here it is...
There is a young Lady at my church that I find myself very attracted to and I am almost positive she has picked up on it by now, yet it seems every time I am near her I get extremely shy and am unable to approach her.
Now I am not a young man any more I am 49 but when I was younger and Unsaved I had no problem approaching a woman that I was interested in, in fact it was a weakness Satan used to draw me to sin.
I since being born again have asked the Lord to give me a wife and partner and promised Him I will wait on Him until I am sure that it is the right one that He wants for me.
This is very slippery ground for me and I have to be very careful I am not following after the desires of the flesh and must be 100 percent certain that it is His will and not mine. So although I really want to get to know her and find out more about her it seems every time I am near her I get all nervous and shy.
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RE: Could he be very shy? - 9/15/2008 12:22:40 PM
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wink1
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Really? Wow, I didn't know some men had those same thoughts. Not saying that all men are shallow or anything like that. It's just that most of the men I've been around don't wait. They see a woman they're attracted too (physically) and just go for it.
I can't completely blame him for how things are going. There have been times when he wanted to talk to me. But, I was too nervous and didn't know what to say. So, I walked away. I get the hibbie jibbies when he's near! So, I know what you mean! 
You've helped me alot. In fact, you confirmed what a lady from my church told me earlier. She said older men don't just jump into relationships. They wait to make sure it's God's will first.
The guy is 39 years old, never been married, and doesn't have any kids. Some people say he's gay and all that stuff. But, he just wants to please God. So, he's a man of high integrity. I'm 39 and I've been called alot of bad things too. But, I don't care. I'd rather wait and let God send me a mate. That prevents me from getting into a totally jacked up marriage! 
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