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Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/9/2009 2:55:17 PM
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armywifey
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I was just wondering how common it was to have a spouse that never cooks. If your spouse even cooks once a month or once every two months it does not count lol. By never..I mean ''never''.
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/9/2009 3:01:42 PM
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mrf084
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My spouse doesn't cook much, but she does other things to keep the household running. I guess I wouldn't know what it means to never have a home cooked meal even if I have to cook it myself. I can imagine it. I just can't understand it. God Bless
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/9/2009 3:20:44 PM
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we had a discussion the other day, partly joking about something, and i said something like so when are you going to cook for me/us? He said that he is the hunter, and he brings home what he hunts and i'm the one who makes it. While i am 'technically'' a stay at home mom, i may only be home all day 1-2 days a week. I guess this is really starting to bother me, b/c i have friends whose husbands still cook for their families occasionally, and some of them even get up with the kids on a sat or sun and make breakfast. While i don't want him to give me a ''morning off'', it would be nice for him to take initiative and at least TRY to make us a meal.
He doesn't come to church with us on sundays so he has a nice quiet house to himself on sunday. I either make a big lunch/dinner before or after church so we can all have something good to eat, since we are starving by the time we get home. I made my plate yesterday, and he says the expected line, ''oh the foods done''.? I guess it just bothered me. I take a van full of kids who fuss on the way there and on the way back, it would be nice to be relieved from cooking, just ONCE in a while!
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/9/2009 4:21:44 PM
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I am a sahm, my husband works long hours. If he did not cook the majority of time for the past 6 months, we would not eat. Our son was born with some nasty acid reflux. He was hard to nurse, hard to comfrot, and hard to get to sleep. I spent most of my time taking care of those issues. My gracious husband cooked and cleaned up most dinners.
Even now that everything is normalizing and I do the majority of the housekeeping, cooking, and general homemaking, he still pitches in. When he comes home he jumps right in with whatever needs to be done. I am so proud to have such an amazing, sacrificing husband and father of my children.
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/9/2009 4:30:08 PM
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In our 4 years of marriage, hubby has never cooked a meal - breakfast, lunch, or dinner.
No kids here, and I'm a SAHW. He gets home from work between 6:30 and 7:15, so dinner's usually ready when he walks in the door. Saturdays I make "brunch," then we usually go out for supper. Sundays is usually a big pot of soup and bread from the breadmaker (soup is made on Saturday afternoon), and leftovers in the evening.
I also do all the cleaning up.
I've never had occasion to have him cook - he CAN, I suppose, and if he were put to it (if I were flat in bed sick or something), he'd be able to whip out a mean Hamburger Helper or something. But we basically consider his job to be his job, and my job is the house and cooking. (I refuse to mow the lawn, though, LOL!)
I somehow doubt things would change if we had children. Maybe he'd be persuaded to make Saturday breakfast then... although Bill Cosby's "Chocolate Cake" routine is now running through my mind.  
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/9/2009 4:48:03 PM
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armywifey
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Yea, i know. It usually doesn't bother me, i don't know why i let it bother me sunday. There are bigger things in life to get upset over.
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/9/2009 5:15:59 PM
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I am one that I don't cook 9 months out of the year! I will grill when the weather is nice, but i won't cook a complete meal. Why? I just don't.
I like to eat though !
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/9/2009 5:37:15 PM
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armywifey
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Good attitude. This is why comparing marriages and people is never a good thing. My husband does what he needs to do to help make this family run, and i shouldn't get hung up on the small stuff. Thankfully this is not a daily battle, but sometimes it gets to me, and it's usually the days when i just want a break from menuing, preparing and serving, but praise God I have a family to serve.
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/9/2009 6:13:38 PM
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I think my husband has cooked three times in the 7 years I've been married to him. And one of those times I was desperately ill and bedridden, and he was desperately hungry. When he sees I'm sick or just wants to bless me, he either brings home a pizza or takes us out for supper.
It does not bother me *at all*. As long as he eats without complaint what I serve to the table, I'm fine. And I have developed a routine and have a repertoire of simple meals that allow me to keep hot meals on the table even when I'm sick and tired. Since eating as a family is one our highest priorities, I will take care of meals, even if I get nothing else done during the day. It's not a hardship for me and I don't think badly of him for not cooking. He works hard enough and he's easy to please. 
Same here. In fact, I'm going away for 4 days and I'm making dinner ahead lol. He works hard to provide it. I can cook it.
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/9/2009 7:08:43 PM
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I am VERY blessed. My husband does the majority of the cooking.Thanks for the reminder!
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/9/2009 9:14:00 PM
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I generally do all the cooking.
There was a phase where hubby decided he wanted to be some sort of gourmet chef (not as a career, just to try cooking stuff), and would cook maybe once every couple weeks? But then he would get every single pan we own dirty, and leave it for me to clean up.
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/10/2009 12:24:43 PM
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My husband never cooks for our family. He will make his own lunch when he's home, which is good.
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/10/2009 4:47:05 PM
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If my husband didn't cook dinner sometimes, there would be no dinner. I work overnight so he does do a lot of the cooking. He cooks as much as I do.
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/11/2009 1:26:57 AM
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I'm actually the cook in the relationship. My wife cooks every now and then, but the bulk of the food preparation is done by me.
Now the fact that I went to cooking school and have cooked all my life might have something to do with it, lol.
Now dessert is another story, my wife can make some killer brownies!
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/11/2009 6:22:33 AM
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My wife has a husband that never cooks.
I will make a sandwitch now and again, and I do make coffee.
I have been known to grill, but it has been long enough that she would not recall.
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/11/2009 8:39:43 AM
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I am blessed to have a husband that not only cooks, but gets up almost every morning with our older two children and makes them a hot breakfast before they head out the door to school. He also does weekend breakfasts every weekend. A full pancake, bacon and egg breakfast every weekend, unless of course he's feeling adventurous then he'll try something new. I do most of the supper time meals, but he'll get in the kitchen and help out or start something if I'm running late picking kids up from wherever they are.
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/11/2009 1:32:10 PM
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I'm the non-cooking spouse in our house.
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RE: Cooking, do you have a spouse that NEVER cooks? - 11/11/2009 2:22:29 PM
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SurpassingPeace
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I am perfectly fine with the idea that one spouse cooks most of the time. I am working hard to get our lives back in order so that I can do the majority of the cooking. It is fair. He goes outside the home to work, I work inside the home. I just don't understand the never. Husbands that expect their wives to cook for them no matter how sick they are, how sick the kids are, or whatever the circumstances. To me, it doesn't seem very loving.
I have a friend who is a nurse. She worked 12 hours shifts. He husband was unable to cook for himself. She would get up early in the morning to prepare his dinner for that night. If he was off work, she would prepare breakfast, lunch, and dinner then go to work. When they had a child. He expected her to do all of that and take care of the baby, completely. She would work herself to exhaustion and he would sit on the couch and ask her to bring him another...whatever. I would be very unhappy in that marriage.
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